We are losing our grip. Really. There is a battle for our children raging before us and we are losing it miserably. Raising children does not at all look like it once did a few generations ago. Back then, parents were expected to control their households and children were expected to grow up within that control. You might argue that such an arrangement was a little rigid. Perhaps. Now children and their feelings have become the idols of their parents' lives and those parents dutifully bow before and serve the desires, hormones and natural immaturity their children display. You might say that such an arrangement is a little - a lot - permissive. Absolutely! So, what do we do about it? How do we think, act and respond to our present parenting crisis? How do we swim upstream against the current of pitiful parenting and grab hold of and apply principles of powerful parenting?
What kind of legacy are you leaving your children, and if you don't have children, what kind of example are you leaving your friends and family? Can you do better? Have you ever thought about what it takes to make a beautiful character that will be remembered for the ages?
Raising children is different than it used to be. Somehow or other the lines between parents and children have become blurred. Somehow or other the very idea of firm discipline has become associated with beatings and abuse. Somehow or other our children’s feelings have become the foundation for our parental actions and responses. What happened to parents unequivocally “ruling the roost?” Is that now wrong? What happened to parents being authoritative and firm? Is that now wrong? What happened to the clear lines of right and wrong being the solid foundation for parental decision making? Is that now wrong? Have we begun to approach the point where we assign so many rights to children that we as parents are inherently wrong? What do children need and how are we supposed to know what they need and how to give it to them?
For many, one of the most exciting events in life is the birth of a child. Once they are born, we really begin to understand how fragile, innocent and utterly dependent they are. If not completely cared for on a round-the-clock basis, they have little chance in life. As they grow it dawns on us that their physical dependence gives way to emotional and life skills dependence, so we must continue to rise to the challenge of parenting in an ever-changing way. At some point, the plan is for them to stand, think, act and live on their own. This is, or should be the victory of parenthood! Folks, something is really wrong...many of our children are not learning this independence! Where did we go wrong?
Children are people too! Yes they are, but what does that really mean in terms of raising them? After all, they are children, and the object is for them to become adults...real, full fledged, mature, contributory adults! As a parent, is it our responsibility to walk them to that destination or do they instinctively know how to get there on their own? Could it be that parents are just in the way? What does the Bible say? Is the Bible right for our generation? Stay with us!
Here we are, nearing the end of another June. This can mean a number of different things...kids are getting out of school for the summer – some are graduating; basketball and hockey have ended and baseball season is in full swing. Summer is officially beginning (tomorrow as a matter of fact). Yes, June is a pretty pivotal month... did I mention Father’s Day? Today is Father’s Day and in spite of all those other things happening in June, we are going to take this day’s program and focus on fatherhood – its responsibilities, joys, sorrows, pitfalls and victories. What makes a dad? Stay with us and let’s find out!
Today is a day of special significance, for it is the national holiday we know as Mother’s Day. It is a day set aside to honor and respect the hardest working and most under-appreciated member of our family – mom. It is on this day that we give the cards, the chocolates, the balloons, the special meal, the phone calls, the flowers and the pampering to the moms in our lives...funny thing, it is on the other 364 days of the year that they give us all of those kinds of things. Seems like it would warrant a “Mother’s Week” or a “Mother’s Month,” but I digress. Stay with us as we honor the most sacred institution of motherhood, with thoughts, Scriptures and music!
Today is a special day. It is a day set aside to honor the institution of fatherhood. It is a day set aside to let any fathers in your life know how much you appreciate their contributions, their examples and their leadership. It is a day set aside to give us the opportunity to stop taking fatherhood for granted, to pause and consider and to say thank you. Yes, it is a special day and yet, even as we speak, fatherhood continues to become less and less valued in our culture. It continues to take a back seat and it continues to be de-valued as a “necessary” part of our social structure. Stay with us as we look at fatherhood and focus on its value, its contribution and its example. How do we honor fatherhood? Well, stay with us and help!
Human nature can be a funny thing sometimes. We can have things in our lives that are valuable and important, things that make our lives happier and more fulfilled. What often happens with these things is after a while we take them for granted. They become familiar and commonplace so the shine begins to fade and we get to a point where we may not even take notice anymore. Well, these are some of the reasons we have a day set aside to honor mothers, for mothers are the classic example of a most vital element of life being drowned out and forgotten in the noise of our harried and busy lives. So, this morning we will remember – we will remember the value of motherhood, and the contributions and examples we have from some mothers in the Bible. Stay with us and help us honor motherhood.
Everybody knows that a good mother gives her children a feeling of trust and stability. She is their earth. She is the one they can count on for the things that matter most of all. She is their food and their bed and the extra blanket when it grows cold in the night; she is their warmth and their health and their shelter; she is the one they want to be near when they cry. She is the only person in the whole world in a whole lifetime who can be these things to her children. There is no substitute for her. Somehow even her clothes feel different to her children's hands from anybody else's clothes. Only to touch her skirt or her sleeve makes a troubled child feel better. - Katharine Butler Hathaway