Being single and living a powerful and passionate Christian life!
“When I grow up I want to get married and be a mom or be a dad!” For many of us there are simple dreams in life that germinate in childhood. As we grow they blossom into clear and exciting expectations. This expectation of growing up and getting married is so basic and so obvious that we rarely entertain the thought of it NOT happening. What if as you grow through life and come to the time when this simple and expected event is supposed to happen...and it doesn’t? What if you spend your life being single?
There are those who say that remaining unmarried can be amazing and awesome, and that’s great. It can also be a turbulent, discouraging and derailing experience that overshadows and overwhelms adulthood. How do single Christians find their way to not only coping with this “single” challenge but living their lives with contentment, clarity and conviction?
Living a Christian life with peace and fulfillment in our current morally-corrupt world is a serious challenge. Add the dimension of being single and that challenge graduates to a critical level for most. Anywhere and everywhere you look it is ALL about relationships, all about attractiveness and all about sex. The message is abundant and clear – if you are not successfully attractive – if you are not commanding the attention necessary to fulfill your desires - then you are a failure. As a Christian single these distractions are constant, severe and even debilitating.
Should we start with prayer?
Prayer is often the first place we would go to combat this challenge. The problem is, what do you pray for? Do you ask God to prepare you for a solid relationship? Do you ask God to give you that longed-for spouse? These are good, morally sound and biblically based desires. Shouldn’t you expect God to fulfill them? Let’s answer this question with an example.
What about Paul?
The Apostle Paul was an energetic and powerful leader in the early church. Though he lived his life in overdrive he also suffered from what he called a “thorn in the flesh.” What this thorn was is not relevant – the fact is he truly believed that he could serve God BETTER if he didn’t have it - so he prayed for its removal. This was a good desire and it fit within the most basic premise of Christianity...selflessness in following Jesus. God answered Paul’s prayer through Jesus and the answer was no. Why?
There are many good and acceptable opportunities and conditions that we as Christians CAN be blessed with. However, those things are not necessarily what God wants to bless us with in His personal plan for us. Just ask the Apostle Paul! Check out our March 26, 2018 podcast, “Christian and Single – What Does Life Look Like?” and walk with us as we examine the five key areas of a single's life. Being a single Christian is not the end of the world. On the contrary it can be the beginning of a thrilling and opportunity-laden life experience. Finding the pathway to this fulfillment can be tricky but once found it will bring great peace!
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