Complaining. Everybody does it. Sometimes, well...actually occasionally, we complain from a positive perspective for the purpose of effecting change and that’s good! But most of the time we complain because someone or something is irritating us, or putting pressure on us or challenging us or contradicting us. Most of our complaints are not for the purpose of truly solving any issue; rather, they are for the purpose of being heard, of having our position or circumstance or opinion verified. We complain for attention, for sympathy and to reinforce our ego. We often use complaining as a tool of destruction against those we oppose. For the most part, complaining doesn’t sound all that productive. So, what do we do about it? How do we stop our complaining or transform it into something good?
There are certain things in life - at least in this country - that are just simply common. Everyone knows about them and for the most part participates in them, often on a subconscious level. Two of these staples of everyday life, murmuring and complaining, will be our topic. What do people most often murmur or complain about? Do murmuring and complaining have any positive effects? Are there thought patterns that lead to murmuring and complaining? Can we alter our complaining habits?
Do you murmur? What does it mean to murmur anyway? Most of us don’t use that word too often, but when you think about it, the word sounds like what it means... murrrrmurrr... sort of an under your breath, nondescript sound that reflects a negative outlook on something. With this in mind, coupled with the fact that we live in a culture that revolves everything around ourselves, chances are that we not only murmur, we murmur a lot! Stay with us as we figure out where murmuring and complaining belong in our lives and look at practical ways to put them there!