August 31, 2021

Ep.: Are we living in the End Times?

We believe that we are living in “the end times” of this period on earth. We base this belief on biblical prophecy both in the New and Old Testaments. The Bible tells us that four events would transpire to confirm that the end of this period of time was drawing to a close and Christ’s Kingdom on earth would soon be ushered in. These signs are:

The return of Israel (symbolized by the fig tree) to her homeland (Matthew 24:32)
The increase of knowledge (Daniel 12:4)
Rapid transportation innovations (Daniel 12:4) 4. World-wide trouble threatening universal destruction (Matthew 24:21)

Because we have witnessed and are witnessing all the above events today, we believe we stand at the very brink of Christ’s peaceable kingdom on earth. Jesus assures us,

“When you see all these things, you know that it is near, right at the door. I tell you the truth, this generation will certainly not pass away until all these things have happened.” (Matthew 24:33-34)

Even though we do not know the exact date, the signs are evident that God’s kingdom on earth will be fully established in the near future. The LORD has said, “For the revelation waits for an appointed time; it speaks of the end and will not prove false. Though it linger, wait for it; it will certainly come and will not delay.” (Habakkuk 2:3)

To learn more about why we believe we are living in the end times listen to, “Are We Living in the ‘End Times’?”

Tags: end of the age, end of the world, end times, Gospel Age

Ep.: Why was Jesus dead only parts of three days?

The Jews began the celebration of the Feast of Passover after the 14th of Nissan, which is referred to as the Preparation Day. Jesus was killed on the Preparation Day. (See Luke 23:54 and Matthew 27:62.)

Preparation Day was when the lambs were killed for the Passover celebration at approximately 3PM (the ninth hour of the second watch, Jewish time, since there are two 12-hour watches: the first beginning at 6PM and ending at 6AM and the second watch beginning at 6AM and ending at 6PM.)

Jesus died on the cross at 3PM, the ninth hour of the second watch of Preparation Day (Matthew 27:45). Jesus was our Passover Lamb.

Therefore, Jesus was dead for the three remaining hours of Friday. He was dead for the entire 24 hours of Saturday, the seventh day, which was the Feast of Passover, and arose “on the first day of the week [Sunday], very early in the morning” (Luke 24:1). If he arose at approximately 6AM he would have been dead for about 12 hours of Sunday. This is how we calculate from the scriptures that Jesus was dead for parts of three days.

The problem arises in Matthew 12:40 where Jesus, referring to Jonah, indicates that he would be in the tomb for “three days and three nights.” That expression, in our time, implies three 24-hour time periods, or 72 hours. However, the rest of the biblical record indicates that the time was considerably shorter (Friday afternoon to Sunday morning).

How do we harmonize this apparent disagreement? An understanding of the Hebrew idiom is necessary to resolve the difficulty. Below are some examples of the Old Testament Hebrew idiom.

Exodus 19:10-11: “Sanctify them today and tomorrow … the third day the LORD will come down …” The third day is here defined as the day after tomorrow.
Genesis 42:17-18: Verse 17 states Joseph kept his brothers in prison “for three days.” Verse 18 states Joseph spoke “unto them the third day,” and in the following verses, he released them that same day (the third day).
1 Samuel 20:12: Again, the day after tomorrow is referred to as “the third day.”
1 Kings 20:29: Israel and Syria camped opposite each other for “seven days.” Yet, “in the seventh day the battle was joined.”
2 Chronicles 10:5,12 (1 Kings 12:5,12): In verse 5 Rehoboam told the people of Israel to “come again unto me after three days. ” In verse 12, they return, “on the third day” and restate Rehoboam’s orders as “come again to me on the third day.”
Esther 4:16, 5:1: In Esther 4:16, Esther asked the Jews to “Fast ye for me, and neither eat nor drink three days, night and day. I also and my maidens will fast likewise; and so will I go in unto the king.” Yet, in Esther 5:1 it is stated that “on the third day” Esther went into the king.
1 Samuel 30:12-13: An Egyptian found by David’s men “…had eaten no bread, nor drunk any water, three days and three nights.” In verse 13 he told David he was deserted “three days agone.”

Just as in the Old Testament, we find the same idiomatic expression in the New Testament. For example, Luke 13:32 states, “I do cures today and tomorrow, and the third day I shall be perfected.” The third day is defined as the day after tomorrow.

Hebrew reckoning is as distinct from our reckoning as is their practice of commencing the day at sunset and ours to begin it at midnight. These different modes of expression are peculiar to the respective peoples and languages and must be taken into account.

From the evidence of both the Old and New Testaments, we find it was Jewish idiom to equate “three days,” “on the third day,” and “after three days.”

Apparently, this custom was derived from the practice of counting a part of a day as a whole day and night. This practice is corroborated by the Rabbinic literature. Nowadays if we say an event happened “on the third day,” we mean it occurred sometime during the third day. If we state it took place “after three days” we mean after three days have passed. If we say “three days and three nights,” we mean three 24-hour periods or 72 hours. Yet, Jesus and the apostles used all of these expressions in reference to the same period of time.

Therefore, understood in the context of biblical idiom, the phrase “three days and three nights” presents no problem to a Friday crucifixion and a Sunday resurrection, as recorded in the Gospel accounts.

Based on the idiom of the time, “three days and three nights” may be thus explained:

The first night and day Jesus was in the tomb was from about the tenth hour (4:00 pm) of the day of preparation, Friday, to the evening, the end of the day (6:00 pm).
The second night and day was from the beginning of Sabbath (Friday night) to the end (Saturday evening).
The third night and day was from the end of Sabbath (Saturday night) to the resurrection early in the morning of the “first day” (Sunday).

To learn more about the purpose of Jesus’ death listen to, “How Did Jesus’ Resurrection Change Both Heaven and Earth?”

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Ep.: When did Joseph, Mary’s husband die?

The last biblical reference to Joseph, the adoptive father of Jesus, is found in Luke 2:41-52. In the account we learn that Jesus was twelve years old when Joseph and his family went to Jerusalem for the Feast of Passover.

Although there is no mention of Joseph’s death in the Bible, it is supposed that he died sometime after this incident, but before Jesus reached the age of thirty, and was baptized at Jordan. Joseph is never referred to during Jesus’ three and a half year ministry, although Mary and Jesus’ brothers are mentioned in the gospels.

To learn more about Joseph listen to, “How Do We Keep Jesus at the Center of Christmas?”

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Ep.: How do we know when the world will end?

We believe that God will destroy this old evil world of sin and death and in its place a new world of righteousness will be ushered in (2 Peter 3:13) where all persons who ever lived, whether they believed in Jesus or not, or whether they were evil or good, will have an opportunity for everlasting life on a perfected earth due to Jesus’ all-inclusive ransom sacrifice.

“For as in Adam all die, so in Christ all will be made alive.” (1 Corinthians 15:22)

If, when individuals come forth from their graves and choose not to follow the ways of righteousness set down for them by Jesus and his Church above, they will, after a period of trial (Isaiah 65:20), be taken away in the second death, metaphorically described as the “lake of fire” (Revelation 20:12-15). They will not be eternally tortured. They will just not exist.

As far as we know there are no direct prophecies found in scripture indicating how long it will be before God sets up his kingdom on earth. But there are prophecies indicating that we are very near the end of this age.

In Matthew 24, we are given many signs (the re-gathering of the nation of Israel, as represented by the fig tree [verse 32], being the greatest of these) that indicate that our Lord is present and that his kingdom will soon be established.

In Luke 17:26 we also learn that “just as it was in the days of Noah, so also will it be in the days of the Son of Man.” The moral condition of the world today is similar to the moral condition of the world in Noah’s day.

We believe that most of the prophecies in Matthew 24 have already been fulfilled and, thereby, confirm that our Lord is present and in the process of tearing down this present evil system.

Some Christians of late have gone further and have calculated by using chronological data as to when the end of the age will actually come. As there is no direct prophecy that pinpoints a future date, we are therefore careful not to focus on any particular date. We prefer to leave the matter as a topic of interest to be studied and discussed among Christians, if their minds are so inclined.

To learn more about the end times listen to, “Are We Living in the ‘End Times’?”

Tags: end of the age, end of the world, end times

Ep.: Why will Satan be bound for 1,000 years and released again?

Careful study of the Scriptures teaches that the Bible millennium is the seventh 1,000-year period from the entrance of sin and death upon the human family through father Adam. Since Adam’s sin, approximately 6,000 years of suffering and dying have passed over his offspring, the entire human race.

When considering creation in Genesis, we notice that God worked for six days (Hebrew: epochs or periods of time) and rested on the seventh. In like manner, the nation of Israel was required to work six days of the week and rest on the seventh. We can use this same pattern—six days of toil followed by the seventh day of rest—to help us locate the Bible millennium.

How long is an epoch day to the Lord? The Apostle Peter supplies us with the answer in 2 Peter 3:8, “…be not ignorant of this one thing, that one day is with the Lord as a thousand years, and a thousand years as one day.”

This 1,000-year period will allow all who have ever lived an opportunity to come to repentance (2 Peter 3:9).

Applying this knowledge to the divine pattern, we learn that the six 1,000 year long days of mankind toiling under the burden of sin and death are to be followed by the seventh 1,000 year long day for the purpose of resting from sin and death and for removing the curse. This same 1,000-year day is spoken of as the time in which the saints will reign with Christ when Satan is bound (Revelation 20:3-4).

Why after 1,000 years would God then release Satan from his bonds in order to deceive the nations again (Revelation 20:7-9)?

It is God’s way of testing mankind in order to see if each person’s obedience is done not out of fear of punishment, but is done out of his own free will, thereby proving that God’s laws are truly written in his heart. We believe that the vast majority of mankind will accept the kingdom arrangements and go on to live forever on a perfected earth.

However, the disobedient will be destroyed along with Satan. From this death there will be no further resurrection (Revelation 20:9-10).

To learn more about this specific time period, listen to, “Are You a Sheep or a Goat?”

To learn more about who Satan is listen to, “Who Is Satan?”

Tags: 1000 years, epoch, Revelation, Satan, second death

Ep.: Why didn’t God tell Jesus when he would return?

“No one knows about that day or hour, not even the angels in heaven, nor the Son, but only the Father.” (Matthew 24:36) From this statement we gather that Jesus was saying that certain features of God’s plan were kept secret from even him until he had finished his course.

When Jesus laid down his perfect human life at Jordan to do his Father’s will without reserve—from that moment he became the Lamb of God slain. He received the holy spirit in full measure and was now worthy to be entrusted with his father’s scroll. (See Revelation 5)

“Worthy is the Lamb, who was slain, to receive power and wealth and wisdom and strength and honor and glory and praise.” (Revelation 5:12)

As Jesus came up out of the water “the heavens were open unto him” (Matthew 3:16) meaning that higher things in the plan of God were made clear to him. In his pre-human condition as the Logos in heaven he was not permitted to read the scroll; as the boy Jesus, and as the young man Jesus he had not understood the deep meanings of the Scriptures.

It was at the moment that Jesus made his consecration at Jordan, the moment of his death as the Lamb—that the scroll was handed to him by the Great Eternal One. Although his sacrifice would not be actually completed for three and a half more years, the surrender of his will was complete and was accepted as the sacrifice of his all.

After his baptism at Jordan, Jesus hastened away to a solitary place in the wilderness so that he might deliberate upon the Divine purposes as they had been disclosed to him. Figuratively he had read and comprehended all that was written on the outside of the scroll—all which was necessary for him to know prior to his sacrifice at Calvary.

We know from his statement to his disciples in Matthew 24:36 quoted above, that Jesus had not yet broken the seals of the scroll and had not yet comprehended all the things written on the inside of the scroll. We thus see that there were certain features of the Divine Plan still kept secret from our Master up to the time that he had finished his course. But, after his resurrection, he knew all things as he was rewarded with immortality and given all power in heaven and earth.

“Then I heard every creature in heaven and on earth and under the earth and on the sea, and all that is in them, singing: ‘To him who sits on the throne and to the Lamb be praise and honor and glory and power, for ever and ever!’” (Revelation 5:13)

To learn more about why Jesus is returning to earth listen to, ” What Are the True Reasons for Jesus’ Return to Earth?”

Tags: Jesus' return, second advent, second coming, second coming of Jesus

Ep.: What is the time span between raising of Lazarus & Jesus telling the Parable of the Rich Man and Lazarus?

There is no scriptural proof that we are aware of concerning the precise time period of two weeks, but it seems a reasonable conjecture since the raising of Lazarus occurred shortly before our Lord was crucified (see John 12:9-10) and the Parable of the Rich Man and Lazarus occurs at the end of Luke 16.

The next two chapters of Luke contain more parables with no indication that Jesus did any traveling between the giving of any of them. Then in chapter 19 he rides into Jerusalem on as ass a few days before his crucifixion. To say “two weeks” elapsed is a guess, but it is a short time.

A better way of stating the shortness of the timeframe between these two events would have been to say that our best estimate of elapsed time from the speaking of the parable to the raising of Lazarus was two weeks.

To learn more about the Parable of the Rich Man and Lazarus listen to, “How Do We Understand the Rich Man and Lazarus? (Hellfire Series Part III)”

Tags: Lazarus, rich man, Rich Man and Lazarus

Ep.: Is it a sin to laugh at a relative’s death because you are glad you don’t have to deal with them anymore?

Death is the penalty for sin. It is because of Satan’s influence that we have been experiencing death and the dying process, so it is not something that is funny, comical or that should be welcomed or celebrated under normal circumstances. However, we’ve all heard the expression “better off dead” when referring to a person who was either so heinous and cruel in their lifetime that death is a way to silence their tormenting others, or when a person is suffering so greatly that the sleep of death is a welcome relief from their agony. Death would be a good thing if the person was so depraved that to continue down that path would give them little hope of learning righteousness when they are resurrected in God’s future kingdom.

Death is an emotional time and different emotions may surface during the process of arranging for the accoutrements around the event of a funeral. A person’s death might strike you as ironic or untimely, and certainly a relief in some cases. Laughing “because you don’t have to deal with them anymore” is a sad situation. Relief of those left behind, especially exhausted caregivers, is a normal emotion that certainly could be peaceful or even happy that the difficult and sometimes overwhelming care of the loved one is over. But this is a response based on the deceased best interests – it is a kind thought and not a vindictive or mean one.

If the deceased was so difficult, cruel or unliked during life that people are feeling such jubilation that he or she is dead, this is a sad situation and should make us all think about how we are conducting ourselves when dealing with others. As Christians, we should be evidencing the fruit of the spirit – love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control (Galatians 5:22,23). We should strive to be a blessing to others and to let the light of God shine wherever we are.

Finding a relative’s death “funny” (as in ha ha) seems like an inappropriate response. Sin is anything that “misses the mark.” An honest prayer asking for forgiveness if anything you have done, said or thought was displeasing to God, or has unnecessarily hurt someone else, would be appropriate.

For more on how to deal with grief visit our resource page: https://christianquestions.com/grief/

Tags: death, grief, sin

Ep.: How do we not compromise our Christianity, but still act lovingly towards others who are sinning?

Sin is “missing the mark” – so whatever we say, think or do that is not in line with what the Heavenly Father would want is not correct. We are grateful that Jesus works as our advocate, our go-between, using his righteousness to cover up our many imperfections. If everyone who sins was treated poorly in church, there would literally be no one in the pews! (Or to teach the congregation!)

But this does not mean we should continue to sin, taking the covering of Jesus for granted. Romans 5 and 6 is the Apostle Paul talking about sin and the gift of Jesus, and one of his points between the end of 5 and start of 6 is that sin entered but God’s grace is even bigger. The logic would then go, well, should we keep sinning because there is more than enough grace to cover it all? God forbid, he says, because we were baptized into Christ and now walk in newness of life. We are to be “dead to sin” and “alive to God through Jesus Christ our Lord.” “Let not sin therefore reign in our mortal body, that ye should obey it in the lusts thereof.”

Here’s the point: Christianity is a “come as you are” religion. But it is not a “stay as you are” religion. We are supposed to learn right and wrong, and if we profess to be a follower of Christ, we are supposed to do all within our power to not willfully sin, to not “miss the mark” of what our Father expects of us. This is a constant, sometimes minute-by-minute struggle, but we have many helps along the way.

Professing to follow Christ but living in a sexual relationship outside of marriage would be wrong, but so would lying, stealing and gossiping. All of it would be wrong and are things we need to recognize in ourselves, ask for forgiveness and not continue doing it. We are supposed to be actually repentant and not just give a prayer lip service.

Sins like these are insidious because they don’t usually happen just once and easily become a lifestyle, something we might consider being “not that bad.” A couple living sexually outside of marriage likely isn’t going to stop even when repentant or feeling guilty. Emotions are too strong. To live in a constant state of committing a sin with no real intention to stop it right now is not pleasing to our Heavenly Father, as it is putting our wills before His. In such a case, the couple should be privately encouraged to get married or to live apart. What they choose to do with the scriptures that verify such a choice is between them and the Father. When we became a Christian, we professed to give up our own wills in order to do what He would want us to do.

Our podcast, “The Gay Marriage Law – How Do We Respond?” was a hot topic back in 2015.

It’s worthy listening to because even though it is focused on the issue of homosexuality, it explains that this is not a “special” sin better or worse than others, but that there is a higher living required for those called to follow Christ. True discipleship does not apply to the vast majority of humanity – or even Christians – and we need to live and let live. We aren’t here to judge on the street corner, yelling out everyone’s sins. We are to be respectful, loving and kind – and then look in the mirror to work on our own issues.

To learn more about our discussion of sin listen to, “The Gay Marriage Law – How Do We Respond?”

To learn more about whether or not we should judge others listen to, “Is It Ever Right to Judge Your Brother?”

Tags: compromising, gay marriage, judgement, judging others, premarital sex, sin

Ep.: What does the Bible say about unmarried sexual activity?

The Bible provides us with instruction on acceptably engaging in sexual interaction.

The Apostle Paul states in 1 Corinthians 7:6-8, “I say this as a concession, not as a command. I wish that all of you were as I am…It is good…to stay unmarried as I do.” Paul explains that as a prospective member of the body of Christ, it is easier to serve God as a single, sexually abstinent person.

That being said, we read in 1 Corinthians 7:9 (Weymouth), “If, however, they cannot maintain self-control, by all means let them marry; for marriage is better than the fever of passion.” Although serving God might be easier for a single person who does not have tremendous family responsibilities to a spouse and/or children, it would be better to marry than to be consumed with desire to engage in sexual interaction outside of the marriage arrangement.

According to the Bible, sexual relations outside of the bonds of marriage is immoral and considered fornication. Please see the recommended podcast episodes below for more details on this important topic.

1 Corinthians 6:18 (NLT) warns, “Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body.” Paul strongly urges us not to merely walk away, but to flee from sexual behavior outside of marriage.

Matthew 5:27-28, “…You shall not commit adultery… everyone who looks at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”

Those who are already married are only to have sexual relations with their spouse. If an improper thought enters the mind, it is important to refuse to dwell on it and to promptly move on to a more beneficial activity.

1 Philippians 4:8 (NIV) charges us, “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true…noble…right…pure…lovely…admirable…excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.”

It is harmful to all involved if one indulges in any improper sexual thought or action.

Matthew 7:12 (NASB) admonishes us, “In everything, therefore, treat people the same way you want them to treat you…” No married individual would prefer to have an unfaithful spouse.

The importance of servants in the church properly attending to their husbandly responsibilities is stated in 1 Timothy 3:12 with the requirement of deacons having one wife, or being faithful to one wife, depending upon the translation. This admonition is sound advice for all Christian couples.

We realize these warnings often go unheeded at this time. As Christians, it is not appropriate to state our scriptural beliefs on every occasion to those we disagree with unless necessary. When proper, we are to do so in in love with the highest and best interest of all in mind. Ephesians 4:15 teaches us to speak the truth in love.

Proverbs 25:11(KJV) states, “A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver.” Also, our families, friends, work associates, and acquaintances should be able to see by how we live, speak, what we are willing to do or not do, and our interactions with others that we strive to live in an upright manner and to treat them generously. They should see we stand for good morals in both speech and actions, regardless of the behavior of others.

We realize this can occasionally feel like paddling a boat against the wind in a stormy sea of surrounding wrongdoing. We need to keep bailing out the water that inevitably splashes into the boat to stay safely afloat inside while paddling toward our safe harbor of life everlasting! We also need to not give up!

When it comes to moral issues such as unmarried sexual activity, we would do well to remember the words of Winston Churchill in a 1941 speech proclaiming, “…this is the lesson: never give in, never give in, never, never, never…never give in except to convictions of honor and good sense.”

We can encourage others by holding up a high standard even if they think it is peculiar now. Our words and actions will be remembered, and others will be helped by our behavior when they are eventually ready to understand it.

“Keep your behavior excellent among the Gentiles, so that in the thing in which they slander you as evildoers, they may because of your good deeds, as they observe them, glorify God in the day of visitation.” 1 Peter 2:12

All sin of fallen man is able to be forgiven, and all people have been provided for in the ransom of Jesus Christ who died for all. We may, in proper righteous indignation, strongly disagree with an action but must love the individual sinner, without exception. “For everyone has sinned; we all fall short of God’s glorious standard” (Romans 3:23 NLT).

Although we all have sinned and all have a mighty Savior Jesus Christ, knowing these things does not give us an excuse to engage in sexual sin. Following God’s instructions to the best of our ability now brings blessings to our heart now and will prepare us for the future eternity of blessings He wants to bestow on ALL mankind, provided they are willing from the heart to learn righteousness. Not following His word on this (or any subject) will always cause us to reap bitter rewards eventually, thus making it harder to grow into the just people He will gladly help us become.

His future kingdom is planned for ALL people to bring them to an accurate knowledge of the truth, to righteousness and to perfection whether they know His plan now or not (see 1 Timothy 2:4, Isaiah 51:11). Revelation 22:17 (NIV) speaks of that glorious kingdom saying, “The spirit and the bride say, ‘Come!’…let the one who wishes take the free gift of the water of life.”

Finally, sex is intended as a beautiful and loving expression of the oneness of a married couple. God created it to be a meaningful bonding experience for married couples and as the method of procreation. Sex can bring about unintended procreation and sometimes disease if one partner has lived an unchaste life. These are important considerations not to take lightly. The marriage institution is a picture of Christ and his “bride,” the church (his most faithful followers), who will accompany him from heaven in lifting mankind to perfection in due time.

God understands people crave human companionship and comfort (see Genesis 2:18). He created a helpmate for Adam for this reason. However, since companionship does not have to mean sex, we may find great satisfaction in other wholesome relationships with friends, family and those we may volunteer to assist in a variety of ways.

Our connections to God and his son Jesus are truly the ultimate and most fulfilling connections any human, single or married, could have or hope for. We look forward to the day when all people will have those most wonderful of relationships. God will be “all in all. “But when the whole universe has been made subject to Him, then the son himself will also become subject to Him who has made the universe subject to Him, in order that GOD may be all in all.” (1 Corinthians 15:28 Weymouth).

To learn more about how to resist temptation listen to, “How Do I Deal With Enticing Temptations?” and “Is it a Sin If I… (Part II)”

Tags: marriage, premarital sex, sex, sin, temptation, temptations

Ep.: Can believers use artificial nails and hairpieces?

The Apostle Paul gives instructions regarding how a Christian woman should dress and conduct herself: “I also want the women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, adorning themselves, not with elaborate hairstyles or gold or pearls or expensive clothes, but with good deeds, appropriate for women who profess to worship God.” (1 Timothy 2:9-10)

The Apostle Peter echoes the same thought in 1 Peter 3:3-4: “Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.”

At first glance, these two passages seem to set down strict commandments that women should wear no gold jewelry and should never braid their hair. However, this is not the case. These scriptures cannot be taken out of context and universally applied.

It is important to remember the apostles’ audience – newly converted wealthy Christian women of the first century. They and their husbands had just come out of Paganism. Many of these new Christian women were constructing elaborate hair designs using wire frames. They wore flashy clothes and expensive gold jewelry all in an attempt to out-do other women. They were not dressing modestly, because they were more concerned with their outward appearance than their inward beauty “of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.” (1 Peter 3:4)

Paul and Peter were not forbidding a woman from wearing a golden wedding band or having her hair modestly braided. Instead, they were instructing women to concentrate on good works and a right attitude rather than trying to impress others with immodest clothes that were inappropriate or gaudy.

The same principle applies today regarding attire, hairstyles, and fingernails, etc. Should believers use artificial hair and fingernails? A Christian woman may use hairpieces and artificial nails providing these enhancements are in good taste and do not draw undue attention to herself. A woman should ask herself if she is dressing to please God or to please herself and the world.

“Whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God. Do not cause anyone to stumble.” 1 Corinthians 10:31-32

Tags: christian women, dress, hair, jewelry, modesty

Ep.: Should I stop praying to be married?

It is important to remember that both marriage and singleness are spiritual gifts from God.

The Apostle Paul speaks of the virtues of singleness in 1 Corinthians 7:32-35:

“I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs—how he can please the Lord. But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world—how he can please his wife— and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband. I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord.”

Although marriage is a wonderful gift from God, it is not given to everyone who asks. Marriage has its challenges just as being single has its challenges. The state of happiness is not contingent upon marriage or singleness. Happiness and contentment come from within regardless of your situation.

The Apostle Paul tells us,

“For I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do all this through him who gives me strength.” (Philippians 4:11-13)

Rather than continuing to pray for a spouse, we would suggest that you pray for ways to serve God joyfully as a single Christian for as long as God permits and let the question of marriage take care of itself, if and when God sees the time is right for you. James 5:16 says that the fervent prayer of the righteous avails much. This is a wonderful prayer of faith and acquiescence to the will of God.

You are a valuable member of the family of God whether you are single or married. It is important to remember that all singles are complete persons in Christ and have a special opportunity to build up the body of Christ as they set an example for other single individuals to follow.

To learn more about how to find contentment in being single, listen to, “Christian and Single – What Does Life Look Like?”

Tags: content, contentment, dating, marriage, single, single Christian, unmarried

Ep.: Is it ok to kill if in self-defense? What about the military?

To murder is against every aspect of God’s Law, but to kill is not necessarily so. We see God commanding Israel’s armies to annihilate their enemies and understand God is saying that in a sinful world it is acceptable to kill when others would kill you and your way of life.

However, Jesus shows the Christian a higher standard. He tells us to turn the other cheek (to endure the evil when it is set upon us personally). Jesus tells us and shows us by example the highest way to respond. But he did not address what to do when family members may be threatened.

We believe it is not a “sin” to defend oneself, but it might not always be the best thing to do. The concept of self-defense is open to interpretation. If self-defense becomes a merciless attack, then it has crossed the line from holding off an attacker into a sin. Should a woman not defend herself against rape? We do not believe “turning the other cheek” applies here. Should a woman kill her attacker in rage? Not appropriate. What if she kills him because he just won’t stop harming her? We think that is a different story.

Should a man or woman fight back against an intruder in their home to protect themselves and their family? Yes, we believe that is not sinning (though there could be other ways of managing such a challenge). Should you fight back with the intent to harm? No – the fighting back should ideally be enough to stop the attack. If you used more than enough force to defend yourself and your family and as a result that action leads to the death of the aggressor, then it is a sin because you killed someone even though that action could have been avoided.

Self-defense is not one big category with an easy answer. If the situation arises where you need to protect your family from physical harm, you should do enough to keep your family members safe. However, your intent should not be to kill. After the event ends and the attacker is apprehended, we would suggest showing mercy and forgiveness. Conversely, because this is such a complex question with all kinds of varying scenarios, there may be instances where turning the other cheek is indeed the right choice for the Christian.

You asked if killing was a sin when engaged in military action.

Throughout the Bible, warfare is presented as a grim reality in a cursed world. There are forces of evil that must be stopped, and bloodshed and killing are sometimes the result. Whether a Christian should serve in the military is a matter of one’s own conscience, but killing an armed combatant in the context of warfare is not sinful in itself.

To learn more about how to turn the other cheek listen to, “Do We Have to ‘Turn the Other Cheek’?”

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Ep.: Is masturbating a sin?

Since there is no scriptural guidance on masturbation in the Bible, it is technically not a sin. However, the actions leading up to masturbation can be sinful, such as lust, immoral thoughts, or engaging in pornography. Pornography in particular is linked with addiction to masturbation.

It is, therefore, important that we as Christians adhere to biblical principles, that is, making sure that our thoughts, words and actions are all to the glory of God (1 Corinthians 10:31).

“Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.” (1 Corinthians 6:18-20)

Is masturbation in and of itself a sin? No, but often the thoughts and actions leading up to it often are.

To learn more about how God views pornography listen to, “Virtual Sex and Pornography- Does God Care?”

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Ep.: What does it mean if Jesus appears in our dreams?

Emotions and unresolved situations or guilt are sometimes played out in our dreams as our subconscious minds strive for resolution. Below we will quote from experts on dream interpretation and let you come to your own conclusions. Their studies may give you an insight as to why you had your dream and also the apparent need you have to let Jesus become a much larger part of your spiritual life.

“Dreams seem to help us process emotions by encoding and constructing memories of them. What we see and experience in our dreams might not necessarily be real, but the emotions attached to these experiences certainly are,” wrote Dr. Sander van der Linden, a doctoral researcher in social experimental psychology at the London School of Economics and Political Science, in his article for Scientific American. “Our dream stories essentially try to strip the emotion out of a certain experience by creating a memory of it. This way, the emotion itself is no longer active.

A study published by Dr. Matthew Walker and his colleagues at the Sleep and Neuroimaging Lab at UC Berkeley also presented evidence linking emotions and dreams. Walker and his team found that a reduction in REM sleep resulted in a reduced ability to understand complex emotions in daily life. Despite the fact that technology has vastly expanded our understanding of dreaming, much of what occurs when we’re asleep remains as it always has: a mystery.

To learn more about how God communicates with us today listen to our series, “How Does God Speak to Us Here and Now?”

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Ep.: How can I avoid feeling stressed from other’s problems?

Helping to bear the burden (something that makes one weaker) of another can affect us physically and emotionally. People seem to feel comfortable and safe sharing their difficulties with you. Sometimes people need a caring listener who acknowledges their challenges and feels for them. This is a wonderful way to serve others by allowing them a moment to share a burden. It can really help someone to bear a trial.

Proverbs 11:25 (ESV) states, “Whoever brings blessing will be enriched, and one who waters will himself be watered.”

2 Corinthians 9:7 (World English Bible) reads,

“Let each man give according has he has determined in his heart; not grudgingly, or under compulsion; for God loves a cheerful giver.”

2 Corinthians 9:7

We are encouraged to bear one another’s burdens, fulfilling the law of Christ (see Galatians 6:2). Doing so may physically and mentally drain us at times. In bearing the burdens of others we suggest it may help you to think of and embark on that help as though you are walking together with a friend in need, listening, thus helping to ease some of the heaviness of the burden by acknowledging it.

Realize that you will not often be able to solve the friend’s problem. That is not your responsibility in most cases. You may aid them in coping better and providing the strength to press on just by providing your earnest attention and sincerely caring attitude. At times you may be able to respectfully suggest a bit of advice if they would like, or else offer a cheerful way to look at the bright side, or whatever seems appropriate.

You may have some experience on the matter at hand, or you might look up or recall a helpful scripture to encourage them. Proverbs 15:23 and Proverbs 25:11 tell us how wonderful a word spoken at the right time can be. Often though, we can only listen and offer a smile and our sympathy. Just being there often helps. If we cannot be there in person, we might mail a note or send and electronic message.

We read in Luke 8:43-46 how, as a perfect man Jesus healed a woman with a 12-year health issue and strength went out of him. He willingly suffered to help others. That is a most beautiful thing. Although we are not perfect, we too may feel exhausted after sharing in the pain of others if we really care about helping them. Our minds and bodies are so designed that mental stress can be manifested in physical discomfort. It makes sense that you feel you absorb some of the sorrow of those you give attention to and that it wears you out. The Bible does tell us to treat others as we want to be treated. However, everything needs to be balanced.

Philippians 4:5 tells us to be moderate (reasonable, not excessive). This is sometimes easier said than done. Even Jesus needed to take care of his needs for rest, food, and especially speaking with his heavenly Father. He needed to be refreshed.

“Then, because so many people were coming and going that they did not even have a chance to eat, he said to them, ‘Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest.’”

Mark 6:31

Luke 5:16 (NASB) says, “But Jesus…would often slip away to the wilderness and pray.” We read of Jesus praying to God all night in Luke 6:12.

He never overlooked his spiritual needs. If we love God with all our hearts (Luke 10:27) nurturing our connection to Him through Jesus, all other things fall into their proper place eventually. We are told to first seek His kingdom (Matthew 6:33).

When our connection to God is firm through prayer and Bible study, we have more of the peace of God which transcends all understanding (Philippians 4:7) and can more readily understand how He wants us to divide our time between daily responsibilities and serving others so we are not continually feeling burned out. We too understand and deal with this challenge and it is often a struggle to balance life properly.

In order to provide assistance to others by interacting with them or just being a good example to them, we need to properly attend to our own needs and responsibilities such as rest, food, work, family care, etc. We also must make time for our own spiritual refreshment through Bible study and prayer.

We may need to kindly set boundaries for appropriate times and places to support our friends if possible. For example, sometimes one friend may come to rely heavily on our time and comfort and this may seriously infringe on other responsibilities. In this case, we could caringly and enthusiastically let them know we wish we could have a conversation at that time, but it would be better for us to perhaps text, email, talk on the phone, or meet at a specified time.

We also need to try not to enable someone by completely fixing a problem which they would be better served by fixing themselves, even if with a little assistance. Helping someone stand with support if needed and when they are able is important, even though there may be times someone actually needs to be carried. It relates to the old adage, “Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day; teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime.”

We can offer support with our kindness, scriptural helps, encouragement, suggestions when wanted; we shouldn’t necessarily do all of the work required to solve the whole problem. This can help someone to help themselves and it also helps us not to attempt to bear more burdens than we are able to in the midst of our daily responsibilities. God does not give us the spirit of fear, but of love and self-control (see 2 Timothy 1:7).

In summary, John 15:13 teaches us that there is no greater love than to lay down our lives in service to our friends. Doing so in a reasonable way to the best of our ability can help us balance our own lives better so we don’t become perpetually exhausted and thus unable to care properly for ourselves, which would make it difficult for us to help anyone else.

When we cannot be present to support a friend, we can pray for God’s will to be done in their long term best interest. When together, we can pray with them. Revelation 21:4 (NIV) comforts us with the promise for all mankind, “He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.”

Similarly, Isaiah 51:11 (ERV) assures us, “…the ransomed of the LORD shall return, and come with singing unto Zion; and everlasting joy shall be upon their heads: they shall obtain gladness and joy, and sorrow and sighing shall flee away.”

Until that glorious day for which we pray God’s will to be done both on earth and in heaven (Matthew 6:10), we have the privilege of helping our brothers and sisters in this world as we have opportunity (see Galatians 6:10), while remembering to take care of ourselves. Loving our neighbor as ourselves (see Mark 12:31) assumes we love and take care of ourselves.

Some Christian friends of ours wear t-shirts that say,

“God’s got this.”’

That phrase helps us remember that although we want to do as much as we can for others, we can never do it all. We can leave our burdens with the Lord.

To learn more about how to avoid feeling burnt out from the experiences of ours or others, listen to our series, “How Do I Avoid Burnout?”

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Ep.: Should Christians be involved in joining organizations such as freemasonry?

Our understanding according to Scripture is that any man-made organization a true Christian might align with or join may have the effect of hindering his Christian growth. That would include membership in any local Masonic Lodge, or other similar secret society.

We read in Isaiah 8:12 (Young’s Literal Translation), “Ye do not say, A confederacy, to all to whom this people saith, A confederacy, and its fear ye do not fear, nor declare fearful.” This verse warns us not to band together into denominational religious organizations or other societal groups.

It also warns us not to fear the opinions of others, and such fear is often at the center of the desire to join such a group. Proverbs 29:25 (NLT) states, “Fearing people is a dangerous trap, but trusting the LORD means safety.”

Some may have thought it prudent to join such groups for the benefit of life insurance available to family members after a Mason’s death. Providing life insurance can be done without joining a Masonic Lodge.

Some enjoy the seeming prestige of the titles conferred as various “degrees” are obtained. This would fall under “fear of man.” Proverbs 16:18 (NASB) warns us, “Pride goes before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall.”

There is good done for humanity in the way of charitable donations to the needy by Masonic and other similar organizations. But a dedicated follower of Jesus Christ whose life is consecrated to God may find there is not enough time to “properly study to show himself approved” (see 2 Timothy 2:15); teach, care for and provide for his family (see 1 Timothy 5:8); gather with fellow Christian brethren to study God’s word and fellowship (see Hebrews 10:25); do good to fellow believers as well as people in general (see Galatians 6:10), if responsibilities of membership in such a group demand much time.

We have attended Masonic events and have relatives who have been members holding various degrees. Our own personal observation is that a copious amount of time may be allotted for ceremony such as the marching in of various members, the stating of ranks or degrees of highlighted members, as well as detailing accomplishments and applauding the members. This all can add to a prideful and selfish spirit in applauded members which the Christian should avoid.

It also adds so much time to even an event such as a dance for a charitable purpose that it would be more efficient for a Christian just to donate time or money to fellow humans without spending precious time on this lengthy type of event. Also, time is required to perform the various duties of a group such as accounting, minutes of meetings being written, etc. These types of time demands, while fine for one not called to follow God through Jesus at this time, would take away from the priorities God advises in the Bible for His people.

We all are admonished to pay our taxes and more importantly, to put God first, realizing that He allows positions of power on earth for a limited time (see Mark 12:17, and Psalm 75:6,7). Some no doubt join lodges wanting to be charitable, which is good, as well as wanting to have some honor among men (fearing men), which can indicate pride, and is not good. While we must follow the laws of the land, even though they are imperfect, we do not have to join an organized earthly group and follow its dictates. We as Christians should recognize no ultimate headship other than God through Christ.

Colossians 1:18 (Weymouth) states,

“Moreover he is the head of his Body, the Church. He is the Beginning, the Firstborn from among the dead, in order that he himself may in all things occupy the foremost place.” Colossians 1:18

All this being said, no Christian can stand in judgement of another Christian’s standing with God. Each one has to follow his own best spiritual conscience on matters of whether or not to join earthly organizations, which forms of recreation are safe and God-honoring for the him as a Christian, how to organize his time and so many other things. Each Christian’s family, home, church group, job and other responsibilities should be taken into careful account and prayerfully considered before adding any extra commitments. There can be situations in which a certain activity would be appropriate for one Christian while absolutely not God’s will for another.

Sometimes, for example, the needs of another family member would cause one to make a commitment to assist that family member in doing something positive that the Christian may not otherwise find to be a priority. For example, we have attended and donated to attend a Masonic event with a family member who requested our presence. In order to support that family member in his attempts to be of service and to keep him company and honor his request, we spent time at a charity generating event that we normally would not find to be a necessity. Each one has to seek God’s will through scripture and prayer to make such decisions.

In summation, should Christians join freemasonry for its good works? We don’t think it is necessary to join in order to do good works. Good works first done to aid and comfort the household of faithful Christian believers, and then to the world in general as one has opportunity can be done outside a time consuming earthly organization affiliation.

Now is the time for the selection of the bride of Christ. (See Matthew 26:11 on caring for Christ, and hence we infer his followers.) The eventually fully ushered in kingdom to come on earth for which we pray, “Thy kingdom come. Thy will be done in earth, as it is in heaven.” (Matthew 6:10 KJV) will be the future time during which all of the rest of the willing of mankind will be taught righteousness and have an opportunity to live forever.

As Christians, now is the time to love God with all our hearts, have Him work in us to perfect our intentions, and comfort the other followers of Christ before the bride class is complete. If one loves God and Jesus but is not trying to follow Jesus’ words in Luke 9:23 to deny himself, take up his cross daily and follow Christ, as a dedicated Christian, being dead to all unnecessary earthly entanglements, one might not look so critically at joining an earthly organization that does some good. Later will be the time to convert the world and do far more good to them than we have time or capability for now. Christ and his church will care for, and guide and direct all mankind to God.

Should Christians avoid freemasonry due to accusations of the occult? If we suspect for good reason that an organization has ties to the occult, we of course would not want to align ourselves with it. We do live in the world and have to operate among all mankind the best we can following godly principles even though we are in contact with many who may not.

Our understanding is that we would not want to waste valuable consecrated time on anything but those things that will reap the best harvest in righteousness for our characters and will honor God best according to our conscience. The most productive way to cooperate with God in His divine plan is for a consecrated Christian to study, learn from his daily experiences and trials and allow God to work out the peaceable fruits of righteousness in His character through applying the lessons of His Word to his own real life, and through prayer. So we do not think joining such an organization would be the best use of a Christian’s time even though charity is one of the positives.

We realize that some of our thoughts may come across as harsh, but please understand we hold in high regard close family members and friends who have seen fit to become members. These are good and decent people trying to do good in the world and actually doing some through Masonry and many other types of volunteering and donating avenues. We respect such choices.

Some parts of these activities will benefit the characters of those involved, helping them to be ready to learn real righteousness, love God with all their heart, and live forever if they are willing to in the kingdom. But the true Christian is held to a much higher standard, we believe. Some things that are good for many people are to be overlooked by Christ followers in favor of following God’s scriptural instructions as precisely as possible. We must aim high, although we will fall short. God looks at our intention, not our perfection in performance. Each Christian must ultimately make these decisions prayerfully and individually.

Thank you for your thoughtful question. We hope we have given you some scriptural insight on the topic and pointed out verses that will help in your own further studies and thinking on what the Lord requires of us as Christians. “He has shown you, O mortal, what is good. And what does the LORD require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God.” (Micah 6:8 NIV).

To learn more about how to make decisions about where we spend our time listen to, “Can Good Things Ever Be Bad?”

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Ep.: How can we come closer to God?

How do we draw nearer to God? We do that by worshipping Him, praying to Him and inviting Him into every aspect of our lives.

James tells us, “Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Come near to God and He will come near to you. Wash your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded. …Humble yourselves before the Lord, and He will lift you up.” (James 4:7-8,10)

What does James mean by “double-minded”? A person who is double-minded is drawn in two completely different directions. His loyalty is divided and he vacillates between faith and unbelief.

“The one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. That person should not expect to receive anything from the Lord. Such a person is double-minded and unstable in all they do.” (James 1:6-8)

That person cannot draw near to God because he tries to serve God and his own interests at the same time. Only a person with a love for God and a sincere heart attitude can begin to draw closer to God in prayer.

Prayer is one of the greatest privileges God has afforded the Christian. Prayer is the vehicle by which we may commune with our Heavenly Father through the merit of His Son Jesus Christ in order to gain spiritual strength and wisdom. In fact, prayer is not only a privilege, but it is a necessity and indispensable to our Christian growth.

How should we pray? We should pray with reverence. We should always ask that God’s will be done and not our own, even though His will may be contrary to our heart’s desire. Additionally, the petitioner must be willing to grow and accept change in his life if God wills it.

In every case, God’s answers to prayers are directly dependent upon the heart attitude of the petitioner and, most importantly, God’s will in relation to the circumstances. Therefore, connection and communication with God grow in proportion to the petitioner’s dedication to God’s will. The Christian should strive to learn what God’s will is for him rather than tell God what his preferences are. Such prayers are “asking amiss.” He should pray for development of character so that he will grow in Christ-likeness and not seek his own will, but seek to do the will of God.

The Apostle Paul tells us to “pray without ceasing” (1 Thessalonians 5:17). There is a reason he makes that statement. Prayer is the Christian’s lifeline. No matter how hard the Christian tries, he is beset with sin from his own fallen flesh, from the world’s allurements and from Satan. The Christian is incapable of withstanding these attacks on his own. The only way he can stand firm against them is to go to the Lord in full submission, asking for His strength. The Apostle tells in Romans 12:12 to “be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful [instant] in prayer.”

You grow closer to God by following the righteous example Jesus set for us and by seeking the will of God through prayer.

“For the eyes of the Lord are on the righteous and his ears are attentive to their prayer.” (1 Peter 3:12)

As we stated above, prayer is the Christian’s spiritual food and lifeline to God. We receive spiritual strength and peace when we connect with God through prayer. “Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in our time of need.” (Hebrews 4:16)

To learn more about how to build a relationship with God listen to, “So, Where Do I Start?”

Tags: being a Christian, Christian faith, heart for God, new Christian, prayer, relationship with God, spiritual growth

Ep.: What does the Bible say about drinking liquor?

Thousands of years ago, the Babylonians worshipped a wine goddess, Greeks made mead (a fermented honey and water drink), and Indians made a distilled rice drink called sura. According to Wikipedia, the term “liquor” was first used for “an intoxicating alcoholic drink” in the 16th century.

Liquor (distilled alcoholic beverages with higher proof ratings) and other alcoholic beverages (such as beer and wine) were commonly all called “liquor” in the recent past. Currently the distinction between previously fermented then distilled alcoholic beverages and non-distilled alcoholic beverages is usually noted. Although not all alcoholic drinks are now typically called liquor, all alcoholic drinks can cause intoxication or drunkenness, and we will consider alcoholic drinks in general in our findings.

The Bible mentions both wine and strong drink numerous times. Words translated as “wine” in English are mentioned over 200 times, as well as words containing the word “wine” such as winepress or winebibber. For example, frequently used in the Bible is the Hebrew word “yayin,” (Strong’s Exhaustive Concordance #3196) derived from a root word meaning “effervesce” (as in fermenting wine). Proverbs 20:1 (NASB) states, “Wine (yayin) is a mocker, strong drink a brawler, and whoever is intoxicated by it is not wise.”

We are warned in Proverbs 23:21 (NASB), “For the heavy drinker and the glutton will come to poverty, and drowsiness will clothe one with rags.” We can see from these verses that excessive consumption of substances, including that of fermented alcoholic drinks, has negative results for our minds and bodies.

Alcohol use, especially if extreme, can make it difficult to honor God with our bodies, as we are told to do in 1 Corinthians 6:20. Since it dulls our senses, slows reaction time, slurs our speech and makes us less mentally sharp, its use can make it difficult to reason together as we are admonished to do in Isaiah 1:18. In 1 Corinthians 6:19 (NAS) we are reminded, “Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the holy spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and that you are not your own.”

Ephesians 5:18, 19 (NLT) warns and encourages,

“Don’t be drunk with wine, because that will ruin your life. Instead, be filled with the Holy Spirit, and give thanks for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.”

So far, we have considered cautionary verses. There are also positive verses about wine. In John 2:1-11, the wedding at Cana, Jesus turned water into wine after his mother told him the wine had run out. Jesus greatly assisted the bridegroom of the wedding by miraculously supplying wine, although the lesson he would thus impart would be far more important. The expectation would be for the Jewish hosts to provide plenty of wine for guests with no hint of running out.

Jesus used this first of his recorded miracles as an important picture. When the wine was completely exhausted, Jesus instructed the servants to fill six water pots to the brim with water. These are assumed to have been large pots with a capacity of about 18 to 27 gallons each, probably used for guests to wash with. Jesus miraculously changed the water in the filled pots to wine.

Water in the Bible is used to denote life, as in Revelation 22:17, “…the water of life…” The church, Christ’s “bride,” (his true followers) will be a source of “water” or “life” under Jesus Christ, for all mankind in the coming resurrection when the willing may “drink freely” (Revelation 22:17). Being glorified with Christ as overcoming saints, their once justified nature would reach its zenith in the new and stronger divine nature provided by God for the purpose of assisting Christ in lifting mankind from degradation to perfection.

This new wine, instantaneously and marvelously supplied from water by Jesus, symbolizes this new and stronger nature, life, of the saints working together with Christ their Head during the millennial kingdom, and the joys of the kingdom.

See Matthew 26:29. Jesus used wine to represent something incredibly wonderful in the picture of the wedding at Cana. We also think he probably partook of the wine along with the other guests rejoicing at the celebration of marriage. Romans 12:15 (ESV) instructs, “Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep.”

Jesus partook of “the fruit of the vine,” which may have been fermented wine, at the Last Supper with his apostles. Matthew 26:29 does not specifically state whether or not it was fermented wine.

This “cup” first symbolizes sacrifice and suffering of Jesus which is to be shared in by his true followers, wherever they may be found, during their earthly lives of studying God’s word and laying down their lives in service to God and His truth. Later will come the joys of the kingdom (new wine).

The apostles and those Christians following afterward were taught to all drink of Christ’s suffering by the picture of drinking of the fruit of the vine at the last supper. Also in Matthew 26:29, Jesus tells his disciples that he will not drink of the fruit of the vine after that evening until he drinks it new with them in God’s kingdom.

This reminds us of Amos 9:13, which states that sweet wine or new wine (depending upon the translation) will drip from the mountains. This indicates the blessed life-giving power of the Lord and his kingdom upon mankind. The Hebrew word in this case is “aciyc,” and indicates “freshly squeezed grape juice,” “new (sweet) wine,” “as just trodden out” (Strong’s Exhaustive Concordance #6071). Here we see another instance where wine is used as a symbol of something wonderfully revitalizing.

1 Timothy 5:23 (NIV) states, “Stop drinking only water, and use a little wine because of your stomach and your frequent illnesses.” The suggestion to use a little wine for medicinal purposes in the case of Timothy is in stark contrast to the warnings against overindulgence by heavy drinking.

“Let your moderation be known unto all men. The Lord is at hand.” (Philippians 4:5 KJV)

Sometimes wine is used with a negative symbolic connotation. Revelation 18:3 (NIV) states, “For all the nations have drunk the maddening wine of her adulteries. The kings of the earth committed adultery with her, and the merchants of the earth grew rich from her excessive luxuries.”

Here wine indicates a spirit of intoxication of the world and false doctrines employed by Satan to deceive mankind. This spirit of intoxication of error and worldly wisdom, rather than godly wisdom, very early on crept into the church and is now rampant among nominal (those in name only) Christendom, although some of the “Little Flock” God is seeking and preparing may still be in those systems (see Revelation 18:4). Conversely, in Revelation 6:6, the “wine” symbolically indicates something very positive – the pure doctrines of Christ.

In Judges 13:4, Samson’s mother is urged not to drink wine or strong drink while pregnant with Samson. Yet in Numbers 28:7 (Tanakh), we read, “And the drink offering thereof shall be the fourth part of a hin for the one lamb; in the holy place shalt thou pour out a drink offering of strong drink unto the LORD.” Here the drink offering to God Almighty is translated as strong drink.

In Genesis 27:28 (NIV), we read, “May God give you heaven’s dew and earth’s richness—an abundance of grain and new wine.” Psalm 104:15 tells us that wine makes the human heart glad.

What can we glean and conclude from these numerous and varied ways that wine and strong drink are discussed in the Scriptures? The use of wine can be used to symbolize something very good, as in the new wine or sweet wine of the kingdom.

In Matthew 26:28 and 29, Jesus took the cup of the fruit of the vine and bid his truest followers to partake of it as a symbol of his blood, or life, poured out (sacrificed) for them and the world of mankind, thus showing that they were privileged to share with him in suffering and sacrifice unto death by living their lives as his followers. Jesus’ perfect sacrifice (as a substitution for Adam) was vital to our hope as Hebrews 9:22 tells us that there is no forgiveness of sins without the shedding of blood.

Wine was properly used as an offering to God by the Jews. The use of wine can also symbolize something very bad, such as, intoxication with the spirit of worldliness (as opposed to godliness), and error in doctrinal understandings, which will be all done away with in the kingdom.

Wine is not forbidden in the Bible, but drinking to excess causing drunkenness is strongly warned against. 1 Corinthians 6:10 teaches us that drunkards will not inherit the kingdom. Note it does not say those who were at one time drunkards will not inherit the kingdom. Verse 11 tells us that some of the Christians Paul was addressing, although walking after God through Jesus at that time, were drunkards prior to being washed by the water of the word of God.

As Christians, we are at liberty to make decisions on things the Bible does not strictly forbid us to do. We are at liberty to do all the good we can if we can prove that it is God’s will through our study of Scripture (see 2 Timothy 2:15).

If a consecrated Christian feels it is proper to drink a moderate amount of wine, following the biblical admonition to be moderate in all things, we do not find scripturally that it is forbidden. However, drinking to excess will cause negative effects on all people, including Christians.

Romans 14:21 also warns us that we are not to drink or eat anything that may stumble a brother. If, for example, we have a recovering alcoholic in our midst, we certainly would not want to tempt them or in any way cause them risk or grief. As Christians, we may decide it is best to avoid alcohol altogether for our own spiritual and physical well-being and to avoid any possibility of injuring another. The world is currently filled with those who do not have faith in God. The despair this causes leads many to abuse alcohol.

In summation, the Bible mentions “liquor” (alcoholic beverages such as wine) numerous times, though we have only touched on a few examples. Its use is not forbidden, but its abuse is strongly warned against. We would do well to either abstain altogether or only use alcohol with moderation, prudence and great personal responsibility.

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Ep.: How should we tell others about Jesus? What if they aren’t interested?

Roman’s 1:20 (NIV) states, “For since the creation of the world God’s invisible qualities—his eternal power and divine nature—have been clearly seen, being understood from what has been made, so that people are without excuse.”

Those with a heart toward God will want to learn of Him. We see miracles in the world and space all around us in the endless array of incredible plant and animal life, the sun placed at just the perfect distance to sustain life, the vast expanse of the universe beyond. In fact, current estimates of astronomers indicate a minimum of 100 billion galaxies in the discernable universe. Indeed, all of creation points us toward an extremely intelligent designer with an intellect far above our own.

We read in Psalm 19:1 (NIV), “…The heavens declare the glory of God; the skies proclaim the work of his hands.” Acts 17:27 (NIV) states, “God did this so that they would seek him and perhaps reach out for him and find him, though he is not far from any one of us.”

When you are seeking after God this is pleasing to Him. We read, regarding our Lord Jesus, in Revelation 3:20 (NIV), “Here I am! I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in and eat with that person, and they with me.”

God “tells” us of His wonderful plans for all mankind through the ransom of His only begotten son, Jesus Christ, not in audible tones, but through the Bible. Jeremiah 29:13 (Tanakh) says, “…ye shall seek Me, and find Me, when ye shall search for Me with all your heart.” Still, not everyone will earnestly seek God in this lifetime. We read in Psalm 14:1 (ISV), “Fools say to themselves, ‘There is no God.’ They are corrupt…not one of them practices what is good.”

Your faith will grow as you read the Bible, since the Word of God tells us in Romans 10:17 (KJV), “…faith cometh by hearing, and hearing by the word of God.” While we cannot see God with the naked eye, we do see the evidence of His creation all around us.

We read His word in the Holy Scriptures, which builds our faith, if we believe. Hebrews 11:1 (Weymouth) states, “Now faith is a well-grounded assurance of that for which we hope, and a conviction of the reality of things which we do not see.”

You might encourage others by sharing that each individual’s experience in desiring to seek God will be unique, just as each person is unique. But once the desire occurs, the method God provides to learn of His plans and purposes is the same for all, reading the Holy Scriptures. As we read the Bible more, and as our faith grows, we become more hopeful due to learning of God’s loving character as exemplified in verses such as, John 3:16 (NIV), “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.”

Our hopefulness and the positive attitude it helps develop in us, along with our desire to do good to others, as the Bible admonishes us in Galatians 6:10, will witness to others that we have learned of God and Jesus, even if we do not immediately tell them of our experience in coming to God through Christ.

When the time does seem appropriate to share something about our Christian journey, Proverbs 25:11 (NASB) tells us, “Like apples of gold in settings of silver is a word spoken in right circumstances.”

Simply and lovingly sharing your enthusiasm for God and His Son, Jesus Christ, and relating your experience of being drawn to learn of them, then reading the Bible, then praying, then perceiving a growth in your faith, would also be appropriate for non-believers. James 4:8 teaches us that if we draw near to God, He will draw near to us. We can shine the light of Jesus Christ in our loving, giving interactions with people even before we have opportunity to share our experiences in being drawn.

We can also encourage others to have hope in God’s plan through Christ by sharing our faith in God and His Word, and eventually relating our own experience, in seeking and finding God. We find Isaiah 35:10 (ESV), which speaks about God’s glorious plan for ALL people, to be very encouraging: ”And the ransomed of the LORD shall return and come to Zion with singing; everlasting joy shall be upon their heads; they shall obtain gladness and joy, and sorrow and sighing shall flee away.”

Take comfort when most others are currently unable to see matters as you do now because God’s word indicates that the eyes of comparatively few will be opened during this present time, for the purpose of completing the “Church” or “Bride of Christ” composed of individuals from every nation.

The remainder of mankind will eventually be resurrected and have full opportunity to find and learn of God and Jesus, and to desire righteousness in the glorious eternity He has planned for ALL, with the Christ, Head and body, assisting each and every redeemed person to walk up the “highway of holiness” (see Isaiah 35:8) in the eventually perfected earth, to love God and Jesus appropriately, and to obtain life everlasting.

To learn more about sharing the Gospel message listen to, “Are Christians Supposed to Convert the World?”

Tags: conversion, convert, convert unbelievers, preach, preach the gospel

Ep.: What does it mean to be a Christian?

What is a Christian? The word “Christian” literally means “belonging to the party of Christ” or a “follower of Christ.” What does being a follower of Christ mean and what does it entail?

To become a true follower of Christ one must first be called. The Scriptures are full of invitations. “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” (Matthew 11:28-30)

“Come near to God and He will come near to you. Wash your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded.” (James 4:8)

“Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need. (Hebrews 4:16)

In Matthew 11:28, Jesus tells us to ”come to me.” In James 4:8 we are instructed to “come near to God.” In Hebrews 4:16 we are told to “approach God’s throne of grace with confidence.” These are all invitations. However, it is up to the individual to accept the invitation.

If we accept the invitation, we must also accept Jesus as our personal Savior and put our complete faith in him. 2 Corinthians 5:17 says, “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!” The old nature, which had been dominated by sin, is replaced by a new nature dominated by God’s Spirit. See Romans Chapters 6-7.

We have been invited to a new life, to be lived in a new way, with the promise of entirely new results. Now we need to be willing to walk on a new path designed by God through Jesus for us. This path is one of submission to God’s will. How do we know if we are following our own desires or are we following the will of God as described in the Scriptures?

“We know that we have come to know him if we keep his commands. Whoever says, ‘I know him,’ but does not do what he commands is a liar, and the truth is not in that person. But if anyone obeys his word, love for God is truly made complete in him. This is how we know we are in him: Whoever claims to live in him must live as Jesus did.” (1 John 2:3-6)

To be different and separate from the world is a very difficult task, especially in a society that expects everyone to be politically correct and comply with the prevailing ideas that everything is good and acceptable. These are the borders that man has set; they are not the borders God has set. Therefore, we need to be honest with ourselves when making decisions and ask if our motivation is actually self-serving.

In James 4:7-9 we are told to submit to God, to resist the devil and by so doing the devil will flee. We are also told to humble ourselves before the Lord and He will lift us up. We are given a similar message in 1 Peter 5:6-8.

“Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that He may lift you up in due time. Cast all your anxiety on him because He cares for you. Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.” 1 Peter 5:6-8

How do we resist the devil? We must be alert to the temptations all around us. Although we live in this world, we are not “of” the world.

If you choose to be a follower of Jesus, meeting and studying with other Christians of like faith is very important and should not be neglected.

(See 2 Timothy 2:15 and Hebrews 10:25.) As you study and meet with others, find an avenue of service that truly inspires you so that you will be able to channel your newly found spiritual energy into service for the Lord. You may choose to get involved in projects where your natural skills can be put to good use. Not only will you be serving the Lord by doing something you enjoy, but you will also get to know fellow laborers in Christ and develop relationships that will last for years to come.

Spiritual growth is a continuous journey, which occurs as you apply God’s word to your life. 2 Timothy 3:16-17 teaches us, “All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the man of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.”

Each Christian must be taught, rebuked, corrected and trained by God’s Word. Then he or she will be thoroughly equipped for every good work. This is the essence of the Christian’s spiritual growth.

Walking in the Spirit of God is a conscious choice and a life-long process of ridding oneself of the acts of the sinful flesh (Galatians 5:19-21), while growing more and more in the fruit of the spirit.

“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.” (Galatians 5:22-23)

Prayer is one of the greatest privileges God has afforded his children. The Apostle Paul tells us to “pray without ceasing” (1 Thessalonians 5:17). There is a reason he makes that statement – prayer is the Christian’s lifeline. No matter how hard the Christian tries, he is beset with sin from his own fallen flesh, from the world’s allurements and from Satan.

The Christian is incapable of withstanding these attacks on his own. The only way he can stand firm against them is to go to the Lord in full submission, asking for His strength. The Apostle tells us in Romans 12:12 to “be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful [instant] in prayer.” What a blessed privilege to be able to lift up our hearts and minds to God at any time and in any place! Believers who come to Him never weary God.

Jesus illustrated this point when he told his disciples the parable of a persistent widow, who was answered because she refused to give up. Likewise, we should pray and not give up (Luke 18:1-8).

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your [spiritual] requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 4:6-7)

God ‘s work is tailor-made for each individual. Some people grow rapidly, while others grow slowly but steadily. Therefore, it is important that we not compare ourselves with others. Rather, as we grow as Christians, we should look for God’s providential overruling in our lives and completely trust Him, knowing that each experience – no matter how trying – is allowed by God with love for our spiritual development.

“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose.” (Romans 8:28)

For more on what it means to be a Christian listen to, “So, Where Do I Start?”

Tags: being a Christian, Christian life, Christian living, Christian walk, new Christian

Ep.: How do we “work to enter into rest” per Hebrews 4:11?

“Let us therefore be zealous and exert ourselves and strive diligently to enter that rest [of God, to know and experience it for ourselves], that no one may fall or perish by the same kind of unbelief and disobedience [into which those in the wilderness fell].” (Hebrews 4:11 Amplified)

In Hebrews 4 the Apostle Paul discusses what it means to enter into the rest of God through faith. The “rest” he speaks of is spiritual in nature. Paul warns Christians not to be like the Israelites of old who did not profit from the message preached to them due to lack of faith (Hebrews 4:2). Therefore, they were not allowed to enter into God’s “rest” (verse 3).

What is this “rest?” The Apostle explains that it is like the rest that God entered into when the original work of Creation was finished (verse 4). Although God pronounced His creative work “very good,” man still needed to be tested. That testing of faith had gone on throughout the Jewish Age and continues now during the Gospel Age.

“There remains, then, a Sabbath-rest for the people of God; for anyone who enters God’s rest also rests from his own work [self-justifying work], just as God did from His.” (Hebrews 4:9-10)

God could rest confident knowing the final glorious outcome of His ultimate plan for man. Therefore, we ascertain from verses 9 and 10 that this “rest” for us is a spiritual rest of faith. So yes, we must “labor” and “strive diligently” to attain that special rest of complete faith with confidence in God regardless of our circumstances in life. It requires work on our part. We must make a conscious mental effort to eliminate all modes of fear and selfish propensities which would lead us down a road contrary to

God’s will, thus preventing us from entering into God’s rest of faith now, as well as the ultimate perfect rest in God in heaven for those who are faithful.

Once we have entered the rest of being “justified by faith,” our work takes on a new and more important meaning, for we are now working in harmony with God and His will.

Our commission as a result of this new harmony is two-fold:

We now daily and hourly engage in the work of living our lives according to the will of God through Jesus and not our own will. This work of self-denial is what will keep us in God’s grace for this life and the next. There is work in rest!
We are now also commissioned to be a part of the body of Christ – to engage with those of like faith in the work of not only building each other up in Christ but also in spreading the Gospel to any who would have listening ears. This work also lasts for our lifetime, but what a blessed work it is! There is work in rest.

“Let us therefore be zealous and exert ourselves and strive diligently to enter that rest [of God, to know and experience it for ourselves], that no one may fall or perish by the same kind of unbelief and disobedience [into which those in the wilderness fell].” (Hebrews 4:11 Amplified)

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Ep.: Can I drink alcohol while studying and preaching the word of God?

While we can attest that on rare occasions there have been people who do not seem to be affected by alcohol, for the vast majority of people that is not the case. The impairment that may come from alcohol (obviously we are not speaking about a glass of wine with dinner) does not belong with the sacred word of God in any way, shape or form.

We believe that to attempt to teach or preach God’s word while under the influence is to insult the purity of God and his plan.

Tags: alcohol, Bible study

Ep.: How do we determine what God wants us to do?

Before we can conclude what God’s will is for us in any life situation, we must first establish what God’s will is not. God’s will is not so precise that there is no room for individuality or creativity. Rather, because we humans are a collection of diverse free moral beings, it makes sense to picture God’s will as a circle with definite borders or boundaries. Are the borders of our decisions within the borders of God’s judgment? Proverbs 3:3-6 helps us make this determination.

“Let love and faithfulness never leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart. Then you will win favor and a good name in the sight of God and man. Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” Proverbs 3:3-6

The principles of these Proverbs are repeated throughout Scripture. We need to ask ourselves if they are the centerpiece of our thinking. What are our motivations in our decision-making process? Are we following our own desires or are we following the will of God as described in the Scriptures?

We must also guard against impatience. Impatience can be a cover for selfishness, since what we want is usually our first choice.

“Who is wise and understanding among you? Let them show it by their good life, by deeds done in the humility that comes from wisdom. But if you harbor bitter envy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast about it or deny the truth. Such ‘wisdom’ does not come down from heaven but is earthly, unspiritual, demonic. For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice.” (James 3:13-16)

James then tells us the wise and patient approach to determining God’s will.

“But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere. Peacemakers who sow in peace reap a harvest of righteousness.” (James 3:17-18)

Spiritual thinking derived from God’s holy word needs to be a priority in our decision-making process. Spiritual thinking will help us slow down and make reasonable choices according to God’s will.

How can we determine what God wants us to do? God wants us to make our decisions within the boundaries (or circle) of his will as defined in Scripture. Even when our decisions sometimes fall outside His borders, God will still help us. He will show us our errors with gentleness, pruning experiences, wisdom, kindness and direction. When we are being corrected, we must take our troubles to the throne of grace in prayer.

“Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.” (Hebrews 4:16)

Next, we need to focus on God’s mercy and overruling in our lives. “No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it.” (1 Corinthians 10:13)

Third, we need to see that there is value in our fallen experiences. “But we have this treasure in jars of clay to show that this all-surpassing power is from God and not from us. We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed. We always carry around in our body the death of Jesus, so that the life of Jesus may also be revealed in our body. For we who are alive are always being given over to death for Jesus’ sake, so that his life may also be revealed in our mortal body.” (2 Corinthians 4:7-11)

Finally, we need to focus on getting back up! “For though the righteous fall seven times, they rise again, but the wicked stumble when calamity strikes.” (Proverbs 24:16)

Each of us needs to ask, “Do I have the courage not only to admit my mistakes, but also to refocus my priorities and place myself back within the borders of God’s will? Am I willing to do whatever it takes to get back there?” If so, then I have learned much about what God wants me to do!

“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.” (Romans 12:2)

To learn more about the process of decision making listen to, “How Do I Know My Decisions Are Right?”

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Ep.: How does God help us with our Christian growth?

All the instructions for increasing our Christian growth are found in God’s holy word, the Bible. The Christian’s guidelines for spiritual growth are detailed in 2 Peter 1:3-8:

“His divine power has given us everything we need for life and godliness through our knowledge of Him who called us by His own glory and goodness. Through these He has given us His very great and precious promises, so that through them you may participate in the divine nature and escape the corruption in the world caused by evil desires. For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness; and to godliness, brotherly kindness; and to brotherly kindness, love. For if you possess these qualities in increasing measure, they will keep you from being ineffective and unproductive in your knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ.”

In order for spiritual growth to occur, you must first accept Jesus as your personal Savior and put your complete faith in him. 2 Corinthians 5:17 says, “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!” The old nature which had been dominated by sin is replaced by a new nature dominated by God’s Spirit. See Romans Chapters 6-7.

Learning to grow spiritually is a continuous journey, which occurs as you apply God’s word to your life. 2 Timothy 3:16-17 teaches us, “All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the man of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.”

In order for spiritual growth to occur, the Christian must be taught, rebuked, corrected and trained by God’s Word. Then he will be thoroughly equipped for every good work. This is the essence of the Christian’s spiritual growth.

Another key to Christian growth is walking in the Spirit.

Galatians 5:16-18, 24-26 explains, “So I say, live by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the sinful nature. For the sinful nature desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the sinful nature. They are in conflict with each other, so that you do not do what you want. But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under law…Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the sinful nature with its passions and desires. Since we live by the Spirit, let us keep in step with the Spirit. Let us not become conceited, provoking and envying each other.”

“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.” (Galatians 5:22-23)

God works with different people in different ways. Some people grow rapidly, while others grow slowly but steadily. Therefore, it is important that we not compare ourselves with others. Rather as we grow as Christians, we should look for God’s providential overruling in our lives and completely trust Him, knowing that each experience – no matter how trying – is tailor-made by God with love for our spiritual development.

“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” (Romans 8:28)

For more, listen to our special 5-part series: “Do I Walk in the Spirit or in the Lusts of Human Nature?” Be sure to follow along with the CQ Rewind Show Notes available for each episode.

To learn more about how to follow Jesus listen to, “Does Being a Christian Have To Be Difficult?”

Tags: being a Christian, spiritual growth

Ep.: What does “cross bearing” mean?

Jesus told his disciples, “If anyone would come after me, he must deny himself and take up his cross and follow me.” (Matthew 16:24)

Jesus is telling his disciples that if they want to follow his example, they must deny their own self wills, just as he did, by sacrificing earthly interests and ambitions. Since the cross was known as an instrument of death, Jesus used this illustration to impress on his disciples what complete commitment to him meant – sacrifice and self-denial. It meant the death of self-will. The cross represents the trials, difficulties and disappointments that the Christian encounters as he places God’s will ahead of his own will.

“For whoever wants to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for me will find it.” (Matthew 16:25)

Here Jesus is saying that nothing in this life is worth keeping if it means losing eternal heavenly life to which the Christian was called.

It is interesting to note that actual death and physical persecution for Christians were real possibilities in the past and still are in some parts of the world today. In other places, the cost of cross bearing may be exacted emotionally rather than physically. Nonetheless, although following Jesus does not necessarily mean physical death, the Christian should be willing to die or suffer anything rather than deny Jesus.

What is true cross-bearing? It is the cost of being a disciple of Jesus, which involves commitment to the point of giving up our hopes, dreams, possessions, even our lives if need be. This is the only acceptable attitude of a true disciple of the Lord. “And anyone who does not carry his cross and follow me cannot be my disciple.” (Luke 14:27)

To learn more about what it means to live a life of sacrifice listen to, “Does Being a Christian Have To Be Difficult?”

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Ep.: Should I feel guilty that my life is so easy when others are suffering?

None of us are “deserving” of the temporal blessings some of us receive. Furthermore, God does not place each and every human being in a certain place for a specific reason. We must remember that Satan is the prince of this world and, as such, sin and death rule. Life for many is not fair or equitable. Because God is not dealing with the world at this time, He has allowed evil and injustice to prevail.

The time period in which we are living is a time for the calling out of a special people unto Christ to rule with Him in heaven during the next age (the Millennial Age). During this present age we Christians are being tested in whatever situation we find ourselves. Some are being tested with endurance due to poverty, sickness, and very poor living conditions.

Likewise, others are having their characters tested as to how they react spiritually and cope with all the advantages of a highly material and increasingly immoral society. For some, this may be a very difficult test.

They are admonished in Revelation 3:17.

“You say, ‘I am rich; I have acquired wealth and do not need a thing. But you do not realize that you are wretched, pitiful, poor, blind and naked.’” Revelation 3:17

Here we learn that God is more concerned with spiritual poverty than with physical poverty. However, it is important to remember that both classes are being tested, albeit differently, so that each may prove faithful and worthy to be part of the Heavenly Body of Christ.

In the next age when Christ’s kingdom is set up on earth, blessings will flow to all humans. During that time, sin, sickness, poverty and death will disappear forever. But for the present, there is injustice and inequality. Rather than feeling guilty for the advantages you have you might want to ask yourself what you are doing with all the tools and opportunities you have.

Are you striving to put forth the Gospel message to those with a hearing ear? Is your life an example that others wish to emulate? Are you seeking to help those you know are in need? There are so many opportunities for service that God has provided for those of us who are privileged to have a life of ease. Ask the Lord in prayer for guidance in your quest to perfect your character as you take advantage of these opportunities.

To learn more about why God allows suffering listen to, “Does God Really Want Me To Suffer?”

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Ep.: Should Christians marry unbelievers?

Should a follower of Christ marry a person he/she had been intimate with even though that person is not a believer? Being intimate with a person out of wedlock is a sin for which you have asked forgiveness. Repentance for that sin does not require you to marry that person. Repentance requires living a righteous life from this point forward. Therefore, you must honestly ask yourself if marrying the unbeliever would be beneficial to you spiritually as well as be pleasing to God. Is this the right decision for a follower of Christ?

The Apostle Paul tells us in 2 Corinthians 6:14, “Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? And what communion hath light with darkness?”

A union between a believer and an unbeliever is bound to make the Christian’s life of sacrifice more difficult, since the unbeliever’s objectives will be influenced by the world, whereas the Christian’s life will be totally God-centered as he/she strives to follow in the footsteps of His son Jesus.

“What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever? What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God. As God has said: ‘I will live with them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they will be my people.’ Therefore, come out from them and be separate, says the Lord.” (2 Corinthians 6:15-17)

Should a Christian believer marry a non-believer? If the Christian wants to follow the spiritual guidelines enumerated in the Bible, he/she should not. If you have asked forgiveness and repented, then you have made a commitment to follow and obey God’s word. Since God loves you and rewards those who diligently seek Him (Hebrews 11:6), you may be sure that He will provide you with compensating blessings now and in the future.

“Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand that he may lift you up in due time.” (1 Peter 5:4)

To learn more about who a Christian should marry listen to, “Should Christians Marry Only Christians?”

Tags: believer, Christian love, marriage, non-believers, non-Christian, unbeliever

Ep.: Can you be forgiven if you have premarital sex?

There are many scriptures that indicate that God forgives all manner of sin and shows mercy to the sinner. “Then I acknowledged my sin to you and did not cover up my iniquity. I said, ‘I will confess my transgressions to the LORD’-and you forgave the guilt of my sin.” (Psalm 32:5)

“If you, O LORD, kept a record of sins, O LORD, who could stand? But with you there is forgiveness; therefore you are feared.” (Psalm 130:3- 4)

“Let the wicked forsake his way and the evil man his thoughts. Let him turn to the LORD, and he will have mercy on him, and to our God, for he will freely pardon.” (Isaiah 55:7)

“If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” (1 John 1:9)

The above scriptures are clear that God forgives provided the sinner is repentant. Repentance means changing one’s mind and actions for the better. Without a positive change of direction, there is no real repentance and, therefore, no forgiveness by God.

If you are truly repentant you are seeking to honor God and His laws in all aspects of your life.

To learn more about what true repentance is listen to, “How Do I Live a Life of Repentance?”

Tags: forgiveness, premarital sex, repent, repentance, sex, sin

Ep.: Is it ok to include dancing as part of a worship service?

Dance is mentioned on many occasions in Scripture. The first appearance of God’s people dancing as an act of worship is found in Exodus 15:20. “Miriam the prophetess, Aaron’s sister, took a tambourine in her hand, and all the women followed her, with tambourines and dancing.”

This joyful dance to the Lord, led by Miriam, followed Israel’s crossing of the Red Sea and celebrated Israel’s new found freedom from slavery. However, dancing is not always presented in a positive light in the Bible. Soon after Miriam’s dance of praise, the Israelites were found dancing before a golden calf in worship (Exodus 32:19). Thus, dancing is a mode of expression that can be used for good or evil. (See 2 Samuel 6:16 and 1 Samuel 30:16.)

The Psalms offer a unique look at dance as an act of worship. In Psalm 30:11 the psalmist says, “You turned my wailing into dancing.” Psalm 149:3 encourages the use of dancing to worship God:

“Let them praise his name with dancing!” Psalm 149:3

Likewise, Psalm 150:4 urges, “Praise him with tambourine and dancing!” Since dance is not mentioned in the New Testament as a form of worship, many Christians question whether dance should be incorporated into church services, the concern being the association of dance with sinful activities. Their concern is that if dance is used in worship, it could be seen as approving dance in other situations that do not honor God.

Although the above concern is well taken, we believe that dance can be properly utilized in a praise service, just as other art forms are, such as instrumental music, singing, drama, etc. as long as it is worshipful, God-focused, and praiseworthy. Dance should be helpful to the entire congregation, not a distraction or simply a means of self-expression. Anything in a praise service, including dance, that distracts from the focus on God and Jesus should be left out. Each congregation bears the responsibility to structure its praise service in a way that honors God. If utilized correctly with reverence, dance is a beautiful art form that can bring glory to God.

To learn more about ways to praise God listen to, “Are Praise and Worship Necessary To Be a Faithful Christian?”

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Ep.: What makes something an idol?

To the Christian, anything is an idol that usurps the place of God in the heart, whether it be a person, a system, a project, wealth, a material object, a statue or image, etc. Anything – even a pastime – which is loved more than God or Christ can be considered an idol.

The definition of idolatry according to Webster, is “the worship of idols or excessive devotion to, or reverence for some person or thing.” An idol is anything that replaces the one, true God.

Although a crucifix is not an idol, statues can become idols if undue attention and reverence are paid to them. In light of the scriptural admonitions in the Old Testament to pray to God alone (Exodus 20:3-5; Deuteronomy 5:7-8) and in the New Testament to pray to God through his Son Jesus (John 14:6, 13-14; Ephesians 3:12; Hebrews 7:25; 1 John 2:1), we feel it is definitely wrong for a Christian to reverence a statue or, for that matter, even to pray to the saints in heaven.

Praying to anyone other than God and his son is contrary to what the Scriptures teach us and is, indeed, a form of idolatry, and therefore a sin. The Apostle admonishes,

“Keep away from anything that might take God’s place in your heart” (1 John 5:21)

To learn more about idols listen to, “Do I Have Other Gods and Idols in My Life?”

Tags: idol, idols, statues

Ep.: Does the Bible tell us to observe any holy days?

Jews were instructed by God to observe certain holy days: Passover and Unleavened Bread, Firstfruits, Feast of Weeks (Pentecost), Feast of the Trumpets or New Year (Rosh HaShanah), and the Day of Atonement (Yom Kippur).

These are considered high holy days and are still celebrated today by observant Jews. The death of the Passover lamb, which was a symbol of deliverance from death for the first-born of the Jews (and thus through them deliverance for the entire nation), was a type or picture of the antitypical Lamb of God, Jesus, whose sacrificial death freed His true followers and, subsequently, the entire human race from the bondage of sin and death.

Before Jesus was to die as that sacrificial lamb, he instituted the Memorial at the Last Supper. “And he took the bread, gave thanks and broke it, and gave it to them, saying

‘This is my body given for you, do this in remembrance of me.’” (Luke 22:19)

This directive is reiterated by the Apostle Paul in 1 Corinthians 11:24-25.“And when he had given thanks, he broke it and said, ‘This is my body, which is for you; do this in remembrance of me.’ In the same way after supper he took the cup saying, ‘This cup is the new covenant in my blood; do this, whenever you drink it, in remembrance of me.’ Our Lord’s Memorial, which falls on the day before the Jewish Passover feast, is the only day of the year that we as Christians are asked by Jesus to observe.

Why is the Memorial so important? Jesus affirmed that the bread represented his broken body sacrificed on our behalf and that the cup represented his blood, which sealed our pardon. By partaking of these emblems (the unleavened bread and the wine) today, we choose to be members of the spiritual body of Christ.

We are the prospective first-borns, the antitype of the Jewish first-borns who were saved because of the blood of the lamb that was placed on the doorposts. It will be through this spiritual body of Christ, composed of Jesus and his faithful followers, that the entire world of mankind will be blessed and saved from the curse of death in the future, just as the Jewish nation was saved in the Passover.

Many Christian groups have taken the directive “do this in remembrance of me” to mean that they may partake of the emblems (communion) on a quarterly, monthly, weekly or even daily basis. We, seeing that the Memorial celebrates the antitypical killing of the Passover Lamb, who took away the sins of the world, believe that it should only be observed on its anniversary. It is during the weeks leading up to the Memorial that we meditate on Jesus’ sacrifice and also on our worthiness to partake of the emblems in the hope of being part of the Body of Christ.

The Memorial is truly a solemn and holy celebration and the only day our Lord tells us to observe. However, we see no reason not to rejoice in remembrance of our Savior’s birth and in His Resurrection on the Sunday following his crucifixion. When we take the opportunity to joyfully recount the mission and sacrifice of our Savior with others we not only witness the Good News to the world, but we also receive a spiritual blessing as well.

To learn more about this important event listen to, “Israel’s Passover- What Does It Mean To Us?”

Tags: communion, holy day, Memorial, Passover, passover lamb

Ep.: Is stupidity or wisdom gained when we do something wrong?

The scriptures tell us that fools despise discipline, and, by doing so, they also despise wisdom, since God tells us that wisdom is gained when we reverence him and obey his laws. “The fear [reverence] of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and discipline.” (Proverbs 1:7)

The word “fool” in the above scripture is Strong’s #191. It means silly, obstinate, wicked, headstrong or stubborn. A foolish person rebels against God’s guidelines for a righteous, healthy life and instead creates his own set of rules as if there were no God. His disobedience not only leads to foolishness, but also often to corruption and wickedness. “The fool says in his heart, ‘There is no God.’ They are corrupt, and their ways are vile; there is no one who does good.” (Psalm 53:1)

Obeying God’s laws and accepting discipline are essential requirements for gaining knowledge, building character and acquiring godly Wisdom. “He who listens to life-giving rebuke will be at home among the wise.” (Proverbs 15:31) “Listen to advice and accept instruction, and in the end you will be wise.” (Proverbs 19:20)

Proverbs describes the benefits of wisdom and warns against the pitfalls of rejecting God’s precepts. The purpose and theme of Proverbs is for the reader to attain wisdom and discipline by reverencing God, obeying his commands, thereby doing what is right, just and fair to all people. It is a guidebook for prudent living. Therefore, the only proper attitude for us is to be attentive to his word and obedient to his bidding. Our safety and happiness depend on our supreme reverence for the Lord.

You wanted to know if stupidity or wisdom is gained through disobedience. The Bible tells us that the disobedient are fools. However, one does not need to continue to be disobedient and remain foolish. Wisdom may be gained through disobedience if one sees the error of his ways, asks forgiveness, accepts the consequences for his past actions, repents and changes. Then he will have learned the lesson of the folly of disobedience and the value of obedience in the acquisition of wisdom.

“Your statutes are wonderful; therefore I will obey them.” (Psalm 119:129)

“This is love for God; to obey his commands. And his commands are not burdensome.” (1 John 5:3) As the apostle says we shall do his commandments and they shall not be burdensome to us because we love and revere God and he loves us. “I desire to do your will, O my God; your law is written in my heart.” (Psalm 40:8)

To learn more about how sin works in our lives listen to, “Can Our Sins Ever Produce Blessings?”

Tags: fool, sin, wisdom

Ep.: Should Christians support beauty pageants?

When a person asks Jesus to come into his heart he sacrifices his old self will to do the will of God in all matters of life. “I desire to do your will, O my God; your law is within my heart.” (Psalm 40:8) The Christian’s role model is Jesus, God’s dear Son, who did his Father’s will perfectly. As we become mature Christians, trusting our heavenly Father in all things, our faith deepens and motivates us to cultivate the elements of character that are pleasing to God. Therefore, our focus should be to separate ourselves as much as possible from the world with its evils and allurements.

Supporting beauty contests by watching them is nothing more than just another worldly diversion such as watching various sporting events. A diversion is only detrimental when it takes up too much of our time and energy. Then the diversion can become a form of idolatry as it replaces God as our first and foremost love.

If you are wondering if supporting some worldly conduct or event is in agreement with God’s high standards, ask yourself if the activity is diminishing your spirituality by lessening your communion with God. If it is, then, perhaps, that activity or diversion is not one for which you should be participating. All of us need to set boundaries for ourselves. Otherwise we are in peril of gradually drifting back into the sinful world from which we came. Since you feel you have been called, you should not take that call lightly. You are very special to the Lord. Therefore,

“Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.” (Romans 12:2)

To learn more about how to decide how we should spend our free time listen to, “Can Good Things Ever Be Bad?”

Tags: beauty pageant, free time, idols, sports

Ep.: Is it ok to be single?

It is not necessary for you to fall in love and get married. The Apostle Paul tells us in 1 Corinthians 7:1, “It is good for a man not to marry.” He infers by that statement that we as Christians are at liberty to serve God in the way most suited to our temperaments and circumstances. Each of us must determine for ourselves as we seek the counsel of God whether we should marry or remain single. Either state is acceptable to God.

Can you be happy by yourself? Of course you can, since the mental state of happiness has nothing to do with one’s marital status and everything to do with one’s relationship with God. The Apostle Paul tells us the secret of being content in every situation.

“I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether being in plenty or in want. I can do everything in him who gives me strength.” (Philippians 4:11-13)

Yes, it is God who gives us the strength and contentment we need in every situation, provided we seek Him.

Although none of us is truly pure, we are, nonetheless, to strive to be free from sin and fleshly desires. We should seek to be both physically pure and mentally pure. Although harder to obtain, mental purity is the key to building a Christ-like character. “Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things” (Philippians 4:8).

To learn more about what it means to be single and Christian listen to, ” Christian and Single- What Does Life Look Like?”

Tags: contentment, happiness, joy, marriage, single

Ep.: Is premarital sex wrong?

As Christians we believe in the sanctity of marriage. In fact, the Bible presents marriage as a divine institution. God himself united Adam and Eve in holy matrimony, saying, “Therefore a man leaves his father and his mother and cleaves to his wife, and they become one flesh” (Genesis 2:24). “Cleaving” suggests the idea of being permanently glued or joined together. In the sight of God it means wholehearted commitment, exclusivity, and unswerving loyalty to one’s marital partner. On a deeper, spiritual level, a Christian marriage is an earthly picture symbolizing the heavenly union of Christ and his Church. “After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church— for we are members of his body.” (Ephesians 5:29)

The Scriptures are specific that any sexual relationship other than between a man and a woman within the bonds of marriage is not acceptable in the eyes of God. “Do not lie with a man as one lies with a woman; that is detestable.” (Leviticus 18:22) “Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer all the sexually immoral.” (Hebrews 13:4) Therefore, marriage is a sacred institution and any sexual activity that takes place outside of it can be scripturally classified as fornication.

The Apostle Paul further clarifies, “I have written to you in my letter not to associate with sexually immoral people. . . . Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders . . . will inherit the kingdom of God. . . . Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. . . . Therefore honor God with your body.” (1 Corinthians 5:9; 6:9-10, 18, 20)

Additionally, it is important to remember that sexual intimacy per se does not automatically assure that a man and a woman become one in a physical, emotional, and spiritual unity. To achieve the biblical “one flesh” union, sexual intercourse in marriage must be the natural fruit of love, respect and commitment. Sexual desire must become the desire for total union and oneness between marital partners. The husband learns to accept his wife as she is because he needs to be accepted as he is. Oneness is achieved because differences are accepted as being complementary, not contradictory. Both the husband and wife need to focus on what is truly good about each other. By doing so, they celebrate their “oneness” by reserving their sexual expressions exclusively for each other.

Abstinence from sexual activity before marriage was once the norm; now it is the exception in social relationships. Yet it is a key principle and a type of the virgin bride of Christ. We can be examples of purity to those in the world by clearly making known our decisions on this subject.

To learn more about the sanctity of marriage listen to, “How Vital Are My Vows of Marriage?”

Tags: abstinence, marriage, marriage vow, premarital sex, sex

Ep.: Why was the Sabbath changed to Sunday?

Why was the Sabbath changed from Saturday to Sunday when God specifically told the Jewish nation that He had blessed the seventh day and made it holy (Exodus 20:8- 10, Leviticus 23:3)?

When God adopted the nation of Israel as his peculiar people, he fixed for them a special day of the week, the seventh, to be their Sabbath, or day of rest. This Law specially was directed to the Jewish nation. However, those of us who are Christian and not under that Law Covenant are not bound by its limitation. Indeed, neither Jesus nor the Apostles ever placed the Gospel Church under the Law Covenant at all. This does not mean liberty or freedom to do wrong. Instead we are free to follow the spirit of the Law rather than its letter.

Following the spirit of the Law is true for the entire Ten Commandments, as well as for the Fourth. Thus to us the Seventh Day represents a Rest of a higher character than that of the Law. It is a rest of faith, instead of a physical rest. “We who believe do enter into his rest” (Hebrews 4:3). This rest of faith is based upon our acceptance of Jesus as our satisfaction before God. Jesus was obligated to keep the letter of the Law in a sense and degree that he has not commanded us, his followers. Our goal is to keep the Law’s spirit.

Acting along the lines of this liberty, the early Church began to meet on the First Day of the week, because it was on that day that their Redeemer arose from the dead. On that day Jesus appeared to some in the upper room and to two on the way to Emmaus and to Mary, and subsequently to others of the disciples near the tomb. These four manifestations of the Lord’s resurrection marked that day in a special sense as a holy day to the early Church. They waited during an entire week and then again he appeared on the first day of the week.

So far as we may know, all of Jesus’ eight appearances to his followers after his resurrection were on the first day of the week. No wonder that the Apostles knew it as the Lord’s Day. No wonder that they specially associated that with all the blessings of God and a rest of faith that came to them through the Redeemer.

Therefore, we believe that Sunday, the first day of the week, is a good day for us to rest not only from our temporal work, but also, and, more importantly, “rest” in the Lord through worship, study, and fellowship with family and with those of like precious faith. “Therefore, since the promise of entering his rest still stands, let us be careful that none of us be found to have fallen short of it.” (Hebrews 4:1)

For more on the Sabbath listen to, “What Does the Sabbath Look Like for Christians?”

Tags: day of rest, Law Covenant, old law covenant, Sabbath, Sunday

Ep.: Should we set boundaries with people?

Jesus said we are called to forgive and love our enemies, to pray for those who persecute us, and carry our crosses.

During his ministry on earth Jesus did not set boundaries for himself. He dealt with people from all social stations including Pharisees, tax collectors, and “sinners” (Mark 2:15-17). When the Pharisees asked why he ate with tax collectors and “sinners” Jesus answered, “It is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick. I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners.” (Mark 2:17) It was Jesus’ mission to revive and encourage those who admitted their sinfulness and their need for mercy and forgiveness. This time of Jesus’ ministry was special for the nation of Israel because the Messiah was in their midst and was calling them to repentance.

Jesus had no need to set boundaries, as his mission was to preach the kingdom message to both believers and unbelievers. Although the mission of his followers during the Gospel Age is also to preach the good news, we are to preach it to those who have a “hearing ear.” “And he sent them out to preach the kingdom of God. . . .If people do not welcome you, shake the dust off your feet when you leave their town, as testimony against them.” (Luke 9:2 & 5)

We must always remember that it is not our mission to try to “fix” the world, as that will be the work of the Millennial Kingdom. Our focus should be to perfect our characters, sacrifice our wills in order to do the will of God, and separate ourselves as much as possible from the world with its evils and allurements. It is important to note that some causes in the world are good ones. However, these good causes may take away time from our main objective, which is to prove worthy to be part of the bride of Christ.

The formula for making our calling and election sure in order to attain the divine nature is outlined for us in 2 Peter 1:3-11. Furthermore, if we do not set boundaries for ourselves we are at peril of gradually drifting back into the sinful world from which we came. The Apostle Peter tells us,

“You are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people belonging to God, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light. . . . Live such good lives among the pagans that, though they accuse you of doing wrong, they may see your good deeds and glorify God on the day he visits us.” (1 Peter 2:9 & 12)

Is the evil that we are to rebuke only of an interpersonal nature or would it include a broader more universal evil? Surely if a broader evil is in our midst we may find ourselves in a position where speaking out against it and even pursuing a course of action our only options, since we are called to righteousness. For example, would we not try to hide or protect innocent people who were being persecuted by an evil regime? Of course we would.

The point we are making is that although we would not take up arms to fight such a regime, we would, nevertheless, act in accordance with Christian principles and assist those who are suffering, even if we might be risking our lives to do so. As we are helping the oppressed, we are also reminded to love our enemies and pray for those who persecute us (Matthew 5:44) and to bless those who persecute us (Romans 12:14). The Apostle Paul tells us not to take revenge and not to be overcome with evil, but to overcome evil with good (Romans 12:17-21). God has promised that those who have done evil will face consequences and have to atone for their actions during the great Day of Atonement (Judgment Day) yet to come. Therefore, do not repay anyone evil for evil. If it is possible, live at peace with everyone. Do not take revenge. “For it is written, ‘It is mine to avenge; I will repay,’ says the Lord.” (Romans 12:19)

Should we “stand up” against evil? As Christians we need to choose how and when we “stand up” against any evil, be it interpersonal or one of a broader nature. God has given his people boundaries and we must be very careful that we do not cross them. The good news is that God has promised that a new day is coming when all manner of evil will be exposed, evildoers will face consequences for their past actions, and God’s ultimate judgment will prevail throughout the entire earth.

For more on how to set boundaries with challenging people in our lives listen to, “How Do You Deal With Toxic People In Your Life?”

Tags: boundaries, setting boundaries, stand up to evil, toxic, toxic people

Ep.1193: Am I Failing as a Christian?

Defining what success and failure look like for disciples of Jesus

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Are we expected to change who we are or develop who we are?

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Is my life supposed to be about everyone else or do I just need to focus on loving Jesus?

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How often do I have to go to church and study the Bible?

Theme Scripture: Luke 6:27-28

So, what does it mean to be a Christian, and how do I know if I am doing it right? What happens if I am doing it wrong? Is there a clear-cut standard? Will Jesus be disappointed in me if I fall short? Am I expected to change who I am, or develop who I am? Is my life supposed to be about everyone else, or do I just need to really love Jesus? Am I in line to get everything I want, or do I have to give everything up? How often do I have to go to church? Should I pursue a career? Do I have to study the Bible all the time? While defining success or failure as a Christian is not an exact science, it is a vitally important understanding to have. As we address these questions, our objective will be to find the biblical answers that can guide us to living our daily lives in accordance with God’s will and word through Jesus.

What are we measuring against?

To measure success or failure as a Christian, we need to understand the beginning basis of being a Christian. Jesus himself said in John 6:44 that nobody comes to him unless the Father first draws that person. Jesus also warned those who would follow him of the hardships they would face. He talked bluntly about "carrying your own cross." In those days, this would have been a horrifying image of pain and suffering. He also spoke clearly about counting the cost of a Christian lifestyle. These plain statements by Jesus simply tell us that discipleship begins with God drawing us. It continues with us answering that call with an eyes-wide-open weighing of its cost.

Now we have to live as a disciple

This is hard to do, as it touches on every aspect of our lives. So how do we measure success or failure here? Perhaps the first of many questions we need to ask ourselves is, how serious am I about being Jesus’ disciple? Measuring our seriousness can be done by observing our outward lifestyle and actions. What does who I spend time with and what I do with my time and resources say about me? The Bible gives us several markers along these lines. Our succeeding or failing as a Christian can be revealed by comparing these biblical standards with our lifestyle. Do you like what these comparative results show you?

Many of us will not be happy with what we see. Does this mean we are failing as Christians? Check out our August 30, 2021 podcast, “Am I Failing as a Christian?” for more. We delve deeply into these hard comparisons and several others as well. Most importantly, we open the door to working on where we fall short. Just because we may have lived a substandard Christian life yesterday does not mean we have to settle for it today. Join us and build an understanding of what discipleship really means so we can all clearly focus on “walking the walk” of Jesus and not just “talking the talk.”

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Ep.: Should I investigate things about other people?

Proverbs 25:2 says, “It is the glory of God to conceal a matter; to search out a matter is the glory of kings.” Is it arrogant to investigate things about others since we are not a king?

Proverb 25, as is noted in verse one, was written by King Solomon and copied by the men of Hezekiah, king of Judah, some years later. King Solomon inherited the throne of his father King David of Israel when he was but a young man. Because he felt he was not qualified to carry out his duties as king he asked God for wisdom. “So give your servant a discerning heart to govern your people and to distinguish between right and wrong.” (1 Kings 3:9) God was very pleased with Solomon’s request and granted him “a wise and discerning heart, so that there will never have been anyone like you, nor will there ever be.” (1 Kings 3:12)

With the above information in mind, we can readily understand the great responsibility that was placed upon Solomon as well as on the future kings of Israel and Judah. The honor of kings was to steer the ship of state. “For lack of guidance a nation falls, but many advisors make victory sure.” (Proverbs 11:14) It was the king’s duty to search out matters that concerned the physical and spiritual well being of his people. Unfortunately, many of Judah’s kings and all of Israel’s kings failed miserably in their responsibility.

Is it ok to investigate matters about others since you are not a king? Would such an investigation be testing God?

If you truly have faith in God and in his workings in your life, you will trust Him to reveal what you need to know (not what you personally want to know) about another at the proper time, if that information is indeed relevant to your growth as a Christian. It is important to note that one should never pursue information about another for merely intellectual curiosity or to place blame. Rather than focus on the behavior of others, we should focus on developing our own characters, as modeled after our master, Jesus.

Jesus said, “Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you.” (Luke 6:27-28)

“Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful. Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven.” (Luke 6:36-37)

If we put these teachings into practice, we will be doing the will of God so that we will be able to “approach the throne of grace with confidence so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.” (Hebrews 4:16) “This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything according to his will, he hears us. And if we know that he hears us—whatever we ask—we know that we have what we asked of him.” (1 John 5:14-15)

Should you investigate matters about other people that involve you? We believe it would be much more prudent to pray about these matters and leave the outcome to God’s perfect judgment.

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Tags: gossip, judge, judging others

Ep.: Can a person “living in sin” be forgiven?

Can he be forgiven? Yes, he can be forgiven if he stops the sinful behavior. However, it must be noted that adultery is a legitimate ground for a Christian divorce, which either he or his wife should seek, if they cannot reconcile.

For the Christian we believe that there are only two circumstances by which a marriage may be dissolved. The first circumstance is adultery (which is apparent in this situation). The second is desertion by an unbelieving spouse.

(1) Adultery: “But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife [husband], saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her [him] to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her [him] that is divorced (for a reason other than fornication) committeth adultery.” (Matthew 5:32)

(2) Desertion by an unbelieving spouse: “But if the unbeliever leaves let him [her] do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace.” (1 Corinthians 7:15)

Obviously, the first of the above circumstances applies and the second may also apply if the Christian’s wife is an unbeliever who happened to desert him. Regardless of the circumstances, no matter how sad, until a divorce is finalized the Christian must stop knowingly living in the sinful state of continual adultery if he wants the Lord to forgive him.

The Bible is clear that sexual relations are allowed only within the bonds of marriage. The vows to love, cherish and be faithful for better or worse, in sickness and health unto death are serious promises to Christians who choose to live in accordance with God’s will. The marriage covenant requires wholehearted commitment, exclusivity, and unswerving loyalty to one’s partner.

Jesus tells us just how sacred the institution of marriage is in Matthew 19:6,

“So that they are no more two, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.” Matthew 19:6

Since the Christian marriage is also an earthly picture that symbolizes the heavenly union between Christ and his bride, when marital problems arise it is the obligation of both parties to prayerfully ask the Lord for guidance to find a way to set matters right.

It is, therefore, important to remember that when a Christian strays and engages in fornication outside the marriage covenant, he is putting his own personal desires or perceived needs ahead of God’s sacred laws. This behavior is sinful, unacceptable to God, and must be ended if the Christian desires forgiveness.

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Tags: divorce, living in sin, marriage, marriage vow, unhappy marriage

Ep.: What does it mean to love one another?

The Apostle Paul tells the Christian what it means to love one another and gives illustrations in Romans 12:9-16. He says that love must first be sincere. Next, we are to be devoted to one another, honoring others above ourselves. We must share with God’s people who are in need and practice hospitality. We are to rejoice with those who rejoice and mourn with those who mourn. We are then instructed to live in harmony with one another and not be proud, but willing to be with people of low position. Paul’s instruction is very similar to and builds upon that of the Apostle Peter’s definition mentioned above.

Although we understand and have a sincere heart desire to put into practice all of what we have learned, we are flawed and do not always live up to what we would wish ourselves to be. Brotherly love rests squarely upon the shoulders of each of us. We should not be waiting for someone else to demonstrate our perception of what we think brotherly love looks like.

Are those who appear to be left out from socialization still recipients of brotherly love? If they are not, they most definitely should be. Therefore, if any one of us observes an isolated brother or sister, we do not have to wait for others to engage that person in conversation. It is our individual responsibility to make an effort to show brotherly kindness and love to the isolated one while not judging the others engaged in conversation. By so doing the isolated brother or sister will begin to feel “loved and cherished” and part of the brotherhood.

Each of us needs to rate ourselves according to the standard of brotherly love that we profess and wish to see in others. We must each ask ourselves what it is that we are personally doing to live up to that standard. We need to make a concerted effort to be the change we want to see.

What does it mean to love one another? To truly love one another is to be willing to give with no thought of any return because those to whom we give are so important.

To learn more about how to love others, including our enemies, listen to, “Condemned to Death, How Did Jesus Love His Enemies?”

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Ep.: How do we identify a “wolf in sheep’s clothing”?

The origin of the saying “a wolf in sheep’s clothing” goes back to Aesop’s Fables (620-560 BC) where a wolf disguised his appearance in order to gain the trust of sheep so that he could more easily secure one of them as food. This fable was well known in Jesus’ day. That is probably why Jesus alluded to it in his sermon on the mount regarding false prophets that would infiltrate the infant Church.

“Watch out for false prophets. They come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ferocious wolves.” (Matthew 7:15) Obviously this statement has an application today as we observe many “false prophets” (ministers) on the Internet and on TV, whose aim is not to bring heavenly treasure to the flock, but to rob them of earthly good.

Today the term “a wolf in sheep’s clothing” has also become a common metaphor for any hidden danger, or for any enemy putting on a false display of friendship when he or she is really up to no good. How does one identify such a person, especially if that person claims to be a Christian?

Jesus said, “By their fruit you will recognize them” (Matthew 7:16). The “fruit” is the fruit of the Spirit.

“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. . . Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the sinful nature with its passions and desires.” (Galatians 5:22-23)

It will soon become evident that a “wolf in sheep’s clothing” will not be demonstrating the above fruits by his or her actions. Instead he or she may be exhibiting some of the following behaviors. “The acts of the sinful nature are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like.” (Galatians 5:19-21)

Once the “wolf” is identified by his or her actions, how does a Christian deal with such a person, especially if that person claims to be a Christian? The Apostle Paul tells us, “You must not associate with anyone who calls himself [herself] a brother [sister] who is sexually immoral or greedy, an idolater or a slanderer, a drunkard or a swindler. With such a man [woman] do not even eat.” (1 Corinthians 5:11)

How does the Christian identify a “wolf in sheep’s clothing”? The Christian man or woman can identify the “wolf” by his or her actions. How does a Christian deal with the “wolf”? The Christian should keep contact to a minimum and not socialize with that person. However, before that conclusion is reached, the Christian must be very cautious in the judgment process by using his or her spiritual mind of justice, properly tempered with love and mercy.

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Ep.: Would Jesus approve of police departments?

Jesus’ answer to Peter concerning forgiveness of his brother follows right after Jesus’ instructions concerning the procedure one should take when one is sinned against by a fellow brother in Christ (Matthew 18:15-20) It is important to note that Jesus’ answer specifically refers to brethren, not necessarily to people in the world. That is not to say that we as Christians should neglect this principle of forgiveness when dealing with worldly people. Obviously, the procedure described in Matthew 18:15-20 will not apply. However, forgiveness is always in order even when the offender does not ask for or even feel he needs it. We Christians need to model our master Jesus and have heart forgiveness even for those who have committed gross sins against us. Jesus always had forgiveness and love in his heart, even for those who were crucifying him.

Shortly before his crucifixion Jesus prayed to his Father regarding his disciples. In John 17:14-16 Jesus says, “I have given them your word and the world has hated them, for they are not of the world any more than I am of the world. My prayer is NOT that you take them out of the world but that you PROTECT them from the evil one. They are not of the world, even as I am not of it.” In this statement Jesus is very clear that even though we are not of the world, we still have to live in it in order to acquire lessons from the experience that will help to perfect our characters.

The good news is that we will have access to the holy spirit of God as a comforter and protector against the evil one. “But the Counselor, the holy spirit, whom the Father will send in my name, will teach you all things and will remind you of everything I have said to you. Peace I leave with you, my peace I give you. I do not give as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.” (John 14:26-27)

After reviewing the above statements of Jesus, we conclude that police departments are needed today. Police officers defend the populace from criminals and are needed to maintain order in a world where Satan is still prince. Only a “few” people compared with the billions now living are “true” Christians.

If everyone were a true Christian, police departments would not be needed. Would Jesus approve of police departments in this world? Yes, we believe that he would, since without an agency that enforces the law anarchy would soon reign. We believe that in Christ’s future kingdom on earth police departments will not be needed.

“They will neither harm nor destroy in all my holy mountain, for the earth will be full of the knowledge of the LORD as the waters cover the sea.” (Isaiah 11:9)

Should there ever be an exception to the Bible’s instruction to work out problems between each other as opposed to going to court. Here again we accept the instruction given to us in Matthew 18, but note that this instruction applies to brethren, not to the world. When we have a legal problem in the world, we may indeed have to go to court, but when dealing with brethren we should precisely follow Matthew 18:16-17. “But if he will not listen, take one or two others along, so that every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses. If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church: and if he refuses to listen to even to the church, treat him as you would a pagan or a tax collector.” We observe from this statement that if a brother is obstinate, he then should be treated as one in the world. Therefore, going to a legal count in the world would unfortunately be an option.

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Ep.: I want God but how can I overcome a sex addiction?

The Apostle Paul when speaking to the youthful Timothy, tells him to “flee the evil desires of youth, and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, along with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart.” (2 Timothy 2:22) It is important to note that the apostle tells him to “flee,“ not hesitate and think about it, but run from youthful evil desires. These “evil desires of youth” encompass many areas, one of which, we feel, is the dwelling on and fantasying about sex. The apostle further tells Timothy to “pursue righteousness” and “call on the Lord out of a pure heart.”

He is even more explicit to the church at Philippi. “Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy— think about such things.” (Philippians 4:8)

He tells them (and this is the key word) to THINK on these things. Are you thinking about noble, admirable things or are you allowing your mind to drift into less wholesome areas? You must ask yourself, as one who desires to have God in his life, if addiction to sex has any place in the Christian profile that Paul describes?

We realize how very difficult it is to change a behavior once it is firmly established. Sexual addiction in particular is extremely habit forming. In order to rid yourself of this behavior, you must earnestly pray about changing it and then take positive action to do so. Positive action must consist of ridding yourself of the source of your addiction such as pornography, especially on the Internet or keeping company with the wrong people.

We would highly recommend Christian counseling because you will receive direction for your newly found time. You will be encouraged to pursue avenues which benefit others and which build up your own self worth in the process. It is important to note that you are not alone in your affliction. Many suffer as you do. Some were unaware of their weakness until they got hooked. Ask the Lord to help you. With him as your pilot you will succeed.

“Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.” (Hebrews 4:16)

During this period of God’s plan, a special class is being called to have the opportunity, if faithful in their Christian walk, to live and reign with Christ in heaven. However, the rest of the world will also have an opportunity for life everlasting on earth during the 1,000 year Day of Judgment. Jesus died for all mankind, not just some. In the Kingdom on earth soon to come, all will have to make right their past lives and conform their characters to the beautiful standard God had set so long ago in Eden. Therefore, does it not make sense to live a life that is pleasing to God now? How much easier it will be in that Day of Judgment.

Do not waver in your pursuit of God. Stay committed to your goal, no matter how strong your desire may be to return to your old habits. Changing a habit takes courage, fortitude, time and much, much prayer. Change does not happen overnight. If you really want God in your life, you will have to work at change by resisting the temptations of the world, the flesh and the devil. In the process of this endeavor, you will learn the importance of prayer and how to rely on God’s strength and not your own. “For the eyes of the Lord are on the righteous and his ears are attentive to their prayer.” (1 Peter 3:12) On our own we are weak, but with God’s help, we will succeed and the glory will be His! “He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak.” (Isaiah 40:29)

How might you overcome the apparent contradiction of wanting God and not wanting God at the same time? The answer is simple. You must put God and his commandments first in your life and not waver from that goal. If you are not able to overcome this addiction on your own, it is important to seek out the necessary help. If you choose to stay addicted to sex, you are putting sex above God in importance. “No servant can serve two masters. Either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other.” (Luke 16:13) “He is a double-minded man, unstable in all he does.” (James 1:8) There is no middle ground. God must always come first. For he has commanded, “You shall have no other gods before me.” (Exodus 20:3)

To learn more about sex addiction listen to, “Virtual Sex and Pornography- Does God Care?”

Tags: addiction, sex addiction, sin

Ep.: Should Christians perform healings?

The miraculous gifts that Jesus’ disciples received at Pentecost were necessary in order to fulfill Jesus’ last command to them before he ascended into heaven.

“Go into all the world and preach the good news to all creation.” (Mark 16:15) “Then the disciples went out and preached everywhere, and the Lord worked with them and confirmed his word by signs that accomplished it.” (Mark 16:20) We believe the special gifts of the spirit (1 Corinthians 12:7-11) were much needed at the time since the gospels were not yet written.

Seeing that the apostles were preaching the good news of Christ’s kingdom that will come on earth (as well as in heaven), it was fitting that they should confirm their message by doing miracles, such as healing the sick, which gave a foretaste of what that time would be like when “the eyes of the blind shall be opened, and the ears of the deaf shall be unstopped.” (Isaiah 35:5)

Although the apostles could confer the special gifts of the spirit to others, that ability belonged to the apostles alone. That power passed away once the apostles were off the scene.

The Christian today lives by faith, not by sight. He does not need miraculous deeds in order for him to believe and follow after Christ. He has the Word of God (the Bible) to instruct him and God’s grace to sustain him even when physically very ill.

In regard to the miraculous gifts of the spirit mentioned in 1 Corinthians 12, the Apostle Paul states,

“But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. . . . And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.” (1 Corinthians 13:8, 13)

To learn more about healing in the Bible listen to, “Is Christianity a Healing Religion?”

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Ep.: Can a carnal man ask Jesus to come into their heart?

To be carnally minded means to be fleshly minded or preoccupied with self and things of this world. Such a mind is in opposition to God since God would have us selflessly dwell on spiritual things. “Because the carnal mind is enmity against God: for it is not subject to the law of God, neither indeed can it be. So then they that are in the flesh cannot please God.” (Romans 8:7-8)

Can a carnally minded man ask Jesus to come into his heart? Yes, we believe he can if he recognizes that he is a sinner and is serious about changing his old sinful thought patterns. Such a step requires determination and effort.

2 Peter 1:5-8, tells us to “make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge, and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness; and to godliness, brotherly kindness; and to brotherly kindness; love. For if you possess these qualities in increasing measure, they will keep you from being ineffective and unproductive in your knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ.”

Although the Apostle lists eight virtues that are required of the Christian, the last seven are only of value as they are built upon the firm foundation of the first virtue, faith.

Faith is defined for us in Hebrews 11:1 as “being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see.” As we become mature Christians, trusting our heavenly Father in all things, our faith deepens and motivates us to cultivate the elements of character that are pleasing to Him. However, cultivating Christian character is a lifelong process. It is a daily life work; a process of addition, adding virtue to virtue, grace upon grace, day-by-day and hour-by-hour.

Is it possible for an individual to possess all the characteristics of a Christian at the same time? Yes, it is possible to do so and that should be our goal. But, can we bare all the characteristics perfectly all of the time? No, we cannot because we ourselves are imperfect, sinful, and fall short of the mark.

The Apostle Paul in Romans 7:21 said, “When I want to do good, evil is right there with me. In verse 24 he says, “What a wretched man I am! Who will rescue me from this body of death?” He answers his question in the very next verse, Romans 7:25. “Thanks be to God—through Jesus Christ our Lord!”

Realizing that even the Apostle Paul fell short and prayed to the Lord for strength encourages us to resist discouragement. “For though a righteous man falls seven times, he rises again.” (Proverbs 24:16) The Lord sees our heart’s intent and accepts it for the deed. We humbly come before Him asking forgiveness and He uplifts us through His word and His holy spirit. It is by His strength and His strength alone that we are able to overcome our sinful natures.

“I can do everything through him who gives me strength.” (Philippians 4:13) “For when I am weak, then I am strong.” (2 Corinthians 12:10) By focusing on the Kingdom of God and His many precious promises and by asking for His help in every time of need, we can truly become “more than conquerors” (Romans 8:37).

When a person asks Jesus to come into his heart he sacrifices his old self will to do the will of God in all matters of life.

“I desire to do your will, O my God; your law is within my heart.” (Psalm 40:8)

The Christian’s role model is Jesus, God’s dear Son, who did his Father’s will perfectly, even unto death. “Father, if you are willing, take this cup from me; yet not my will, but yours be done.” (Luke 22:42)

The Apostle Paul explains what it means to surrender our wills. “Therefore, I urge you, brothers, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices (the slaughter of self-will), holy and pleasing to God—this is your spiritual act of worship. Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.” (Romans 12:1-2)

Is it possible for a carnal man to ask Jesus to come into his heart? Yes, it is, providing he is willing to turn his back on sin, follow the will of God and emulate the character of His son Jesus.

To learn more about what it means to follow Jesus listen to, “Jesus Died For You! Are You Dying For Him?”

Tags: carnal, discipleship, heart for God, pure heart, sin

Ep.: Should Christians practice the law of Moses?

“Did not Christ come to fulfill the Law and set us free?”

The Law of Moses was given to the Jews to keep them pure and separate from the nations around them. The Jews were God’s special people from which Messiah was to come. The Law acted as a schoolmaster in order to bring the Jews to Christ. “So the law was put in charge to lead us to Christ that we might be justified by faith. Now that faith has come, we are no longer under the supervision of the law.’’(Galatians 3: 24-25)

Once Jesus came and fulfilled the Law by his sacrifice unto death, the Law was no longer binding to the Jew providing he accepted Jesus. The Apostle Paul further explains this thought by commenting, ‘‘that a man is not justified by observing the law, but by faith in Jesus Christ.’’(Galatians 2: 15) Christians, be they Jew or Gentile, are not required to follow the 300 plus laws stated in Leviticus or to celebrate the Jewish Sabbath or holy days, but are required to follow the Ten Commandments. In fact, as Jesus taught us in the Sermon on the Mount, these commandments should be taken to a higher level than had ever been taught and now be written on our hearts.

In the Sermon, Jesus gave his followers the high principles that they and we, as Christians today, are to live by. Jesus said,

“You have heard it said, ‘Love your neighbor and hate your enemy, ‘but I tell you: Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be sons of your Father in heaven.’” (Matthew 5:43-45).

In these verses, Jesus is showing his followers the importance of the law of love, a law that is far greater than the Old Law Covenant that He completed upon His death on the cross.

To learn more about how the Old Testament law works for Christians today listen to, “Does the Old Testament Law Apply to Me?”

Tags: law, law of moses, old testament law, torah

Ep.: How do you surrender fully to God?

Total submission to God requires sacrificing your self-will in every matter of life in order to do the will of God. When you surrender your will to God, you make a covenant of sacrifice. You sincerely endeavor to live a life that is pleasing to Him in every way. “I desire to do your will, O my God; your law is within my heart.” (Psalm 40:8) Your role model is Jesus, God’s dear Son, who did his Father’s will perfectly, even unto death. “Father, if you are willing, take this cup from me; yet not my will, but yours be done.” (Luke 22:42) The Apostle Paul explains what it means to surrender our wills.

“Therefore, I urge you, brothers, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices (the slaughter of self-will), holy and pleasing to God—this is your spiritual act of worship. Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.” (Romans 12:1-2)

There is only one call to sacrifice during this time and that is to be part of the heavenly Bride of Christ, a very small and elect group. God does the calling. If you feel you have been called, do not take the call lightly. You are very special to the Lord. He would not have called you if He did not know that you were capable of fulfilling your covenant of sacrifice.

“Being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 1:6)

Although surrendering your will to God may at first appear to be daunting, God has given us many encouraging and faith-building scriptures that support us on our Christian journey. “Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in our time of need.” (Hebrews 4:16) “So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” (Isaiah 41:10)

For more on what it means to be called by God listen to, “How Does God Touch Your Heart?”

To learn more about life as a Christian listen to, “Does Being a Christian Have to Be Difficult?”

Tags: calling, consecration, high calling, self-sacrifice

Ep.: How does God view marijuana?

With many states legalizing marijuana is it ok for Christians to use marijuana?

There is no mention of marijuana in the Bible. Therefore, we can offer you no scriptures relating to marijuana or its use. The only drug we can relate it to in the Bible is alcohol (wine). The Scriptures urge us to be cautious. “Do not join those who drink too much wine or gorge themselves on meat.” (Proverbs 23:20) “Do not get drunk on wine, which leads to debauchery. Instead be filled with the Spirit.” (Ephesians 5:18)

However, the scriptures do not say that we must totally abstain from wine. The Apostle Paul tells Timothy, “Stop drinking only water, and use a little wine because of your stomach and your frequent illnesses.” (1 Timothy 5:23) This statement leads us to believe that wine, when used in moderation or for medicinal purposes, was acceptable.

At the wedding at Cana (John 2:1-11) Jesus provided between 120-160 gallons of wine. What kind of wine was being served at the wedding at Cana? Would Jesus have made wine that could have caused some to become intoxicated? Did the wine have a high alcohol content or was it grape juice? The scriptures tell us that the wine that Jesus made was of high quality, not because of its alcohol content, but because it was ‘new wine, freshly created! It was not old, decayed wine, as it would have to be if it were intoxicating. Jesus’ first miracle thus was a fitting representation of His glory (John 2:11).

Because the scriptures do not provide a direct answer on this subject, it is important that you don’t do anything that violates your own conscience.

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Ep.: Is it ok to use medical marijuana?

There is no mention of marijuana in the Bible. Therefore, we can offer you no scriptures relating to marijuana or its use.

Although marijuana is a drug and can be addictive, it does have some medical benefits. It is used to relieve pain, improve the well being of chemotherapy patients, help prevent some cancers from metastasizing, and, perhaps, slow the progress of Alzheimer’s, to name just a few. Medicinal marijuana is prescribed by a doctor and is usually in pill form. It is not to be smoked.

If you are using marijuana for your medical conditions and not using it for recreational purposes then there should be no problem, providing your doctor monitors you.

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Ep.: Should we always turn the other cheek?

How does the old adage“all evil needs to thrive is for good people to do nothing.” apply to Jesus’ statement about not resisting an evil person?

Jesus said, “You have heard that it was said, ‘Eye for an eye, and tooth for a tooth.’ But I tell you, Do not resist an evil person. [Do not retaliate.] If someone strikes you on the right cheek, turn to him the other also. [This is a figurative expression, meaning willingness to accept insult or even assault rather than to do injury to another.] And if someone wants to sue you and take your tunic, let him have your cloak as well. [Try to settle with the person out of court even if it may not be in our best interest.] If someone forces you to go one mile, go with him two miles. [Do not show a narrow spirit in enacting the law’s requirements.] Give the one who asks you, and do not turn away from the one who wants to borrow from you. [Do not turn away those in need.] You have heard it said, ‘Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I tell you: Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be sons of your Father in heaven.” [Follow Jesus’ example when he walked the earth.] (Matthew 5:38-45)

Jesus, we believe, is telling us not to exact vengeance on another fellow imperfect sinful human for transgressions done to us. Instead, He is showing the importance of the law of love, rather than the absolute Old Testament law of justice that resulted in a hardness of heart. Not exacting vengeance does not mean that we do nothing when evil is perpetuated against us. Matthew 5:38-45 describes an inner selfless love and understanding of a fellow sinner and illustrates figuratively what the Christian’s heart attitude should be in regard to those who persecute or do evil against him personally.

The Apostle Paul in Romans 12:19-21 sums up what the Christian’s attitude and actions should be.

“Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: ‘It is mine to avenge; I will repay,’ says the Lord. On the contrary: ‘If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink.’ . . . Do not be overcome with evil, but overcome evil with good.”

You wanted to know if Jesus’ statement to not resist an evil act by a person would actually cause evil to thrive. We believe Jesus’ statement is not directed to a moment of crisis where action is needed to protect or defend one’s self or another’s and, therefore, thwart evil. The statement, instead, is in reference to each of us personally. When we are assaulted or persecuted, what should our attitude be? We should “hate what is evil and cling to what is good” (Romans 12:9) and not repay anyone evil for evil (Romans 12:17).

It is our firm belief that Jesus never taught us to let evil thrive. Rather his teachings were to help us in our battles against evil—not to fight evil with evil, but to fight it with righteousness and mercy as we take a stand for what is good in the sight of God, even if that stand may mean our own personal demise.

For more on what it means to turn the other cheek listen to, “Do We Have to ‘Turn the Other Cheek’?”

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Ep.: What if I don’t feel like going to church?

What if you lost your “craving” to read and study the word of God? What if church just makes you feel guilty all of the time and some of the practices or traditions within the church make you uncomfortable? Is this Satan tempting you not to attend?

The word “church” according to Strong’s Concordance means “a calling out” or “a community of members on earth or saints in heaven or both.” Meeting together with other Christians to study the word of God is a great privilege. When we assemble together we not only learn from each other but we also support and encourage one another as we build up each other in our most precious faith.

The Apostle Paul admonishes us to “consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds” and not “give up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but let us encourage one another.” (Hebrews 10:24-25) Our Lord Jesus said, “For where two or three come together in my name, there am I with them.” (Matthew 18:20)

Christians are often referred to as “the body of Christ.” Just as the human body is made up of many parts, so is Christ’s spiritual body. Because each body part is needed and has a specific function,

“there should be no division in the body, but its parts should have equal concern for each other. If one part suffers, every part suffers with it; if one part is honored, every part rejoices with it. Now you are the body of Christ, and each one of you is part of it.” (1 Corinthians 12:25-27)

Meeting on a regular basis with our brethren helps us understand and appreciate the very different and needed personalities that make up the body of Christ while at the same time it gives us the opportunity to build character through patience. Meeting together also keeps us from getting lax and losing our zeal for the Lord and his Truth.

You must ask yourself if the “church” you have been attending is fulfilling the scriptural standard mentioned above. If it is not, you have an obligation as a Christian to diligently seek the truth by studying the word of God as your humbly pray for guidance in your quest to find a gathering place of Christians with like minds. If you would like to find Bible study groups, we can certainly assist you. Please let us know if that is your desire.

If you are looking for a way to rekindle your faith listen to, “How Do I Relight the Fire of My Christian Faith?”

Tags: churches, faith strengthening

VIDEO: How Can I Effectively Reach Out and Connect With Others?

The New Testament words for communicating are not what you might expect. Watch this short vlog then listen to the full podcast of the same name for more details.

Ep.1192: How Can I Effectively Reach Out and Connect With Others?

Understanding vital tools that enhance personal communication

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How should we be communicating within our Christian community?

Theme Scripture: Galatians 5:13

Never in the history of humanity have we had such a profound ability to communicate with others. From the palm of our hand, we can see and speak with individuals and groups all over the world at anytime of day or night. We can message, share and “like” in countless ways. Yet, never in the history of humanity have we been so disassociated, disconnected and dysfunctional. We are more polarized, more self-centered and more alone than we ever have been. So, how did we get here and how do we fix it? How do we find our way through this technology-driven world and actually connect with others? As Christians especially, what do we need to do to be connected with those around us in a way that can bless and encourage them?

What does "communicate" mean biblically?

Let’s begin by figuring out what it means to communicate. In the New Testament, the words translated into our English "communicate" are very different than we might expect. Their meaning has to do with much more than talking and much more than being able to make a point. They have to do with giving, usually in relation to supporting others who are in a disadvantaged state. When the brotherhood stepped up and supported those in need, it is spoken of as a sacrifice that is pleasing to God (Hebrews 13:16). We therefore see Christian communication as actively reaching out into another’s life by words or actions to build them up.

How did Jesus communicate?

To learn to be effective communicators, we first look to the example of Jesus. What we find is a clear “how to” template to model our communication efforts. Jesus knew how to tell stories, ask questions and was able to reach out and heal diseases by God’s power. He also communicated through words and actions with laser-like focus. While we cannot do the miracles he did, we can communicate with the intention of being a positive and healing presence in the lives of others.

While Jesus is our best example, it is important to realize that strong communication is a very customizable process. Because we are all different in relation to our temperaments, experiences and perspectives, we need to be flexible in our approach. The Apostle Paul was a striking model of this flexible approach. While out preaching the gospel in Athens he came across a harsh reality. As he responded, he showed us how to take what could have been a volatile experience and turn it into a positive one. What are the details?

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August 21, 2021

Ep.: If a Christian leader is arrested, should they still be worthy of leadership?

We know from biblical as well as historical accounts, that since the days of the apostles persecution and imprisonment of true followers of Jesus have been implemented by the Roman Empire, the Holy Roman Empire, civil governments run by monarchies, dictators, communist and Islamic regimes, and the like.

If a true Christian leader has been imprisoned because he was either falsely accused or was not afraid to profess his faith, then, in answer to your first and last questions, he is still worthy of leadership even though imprisoned. We have the example of the Apostle Paul who, under house arrest in Rome, boldly preached about the kingdom of God. (See Acts 28:17-31.)

How many true Christians have been arrested in the past and how many will be arrested before this present age comes to an end? We do not know. However, we do know from history that many thousands of faithful Christians were arrested and martyred for their beliefs during the Dark and Middle Ages as well as during the Reformation. Today, persecution of Christians from all denominations is on the rise. In October 1998, the Oregonian newspaper did a five part, in depth series on the persecution of Christians worldwide, focusing on the plight of the believers in Pakistan, Burma, Sudan, Egypt, and China. Since that article was published, the frequency of persecutions has increased.

Will the rate of Christian arrests and persecutions continue to increase before this age comes to an end? In all likelihood we believe it will. “Night is coming, when no one can work.” (John 9:4) We venture to guess that Christians who will be arrested and/or persecuted at the very end of this age may be the ones who profess the truth of the kingdom message openly in a hostile environment.

To learn more about what true leadership looks like listen to, “Does My Church Leadership Have it Right?”

“Have You Lost Faith in Your Spiritual Leaders?”

Tags: christian leader, leadership

Ep.: Are we required to respect a “bad” boss that may be dishonest or worse?

The Apostle Peter tells us to “show proper respect to everyone; Love the brotherhood of believers, fear God, honor the king.” (1 Peter 2:17) Here Peter says that we should not only show respect to everyone, but also honor the king, although the king, in those days was often an evil person. The “king” in today’s world is the person in authority, such as a political leader or even a “boss.” Consequently, we are to respect our leaders and bosses due to their positions of leadership even if we may not always agree with their values.

An interesting example of respect for authority is found in 1 Samuel 24 and 26. After David killed Goliath, he became more popular than King Saul. Saul became jealous and determined to kill David, so David fled. Saul gathered his army and chased David with the intent of killing him. On two different occasions, David had the opportunity to kill Saul. Although David knew that Saul’s actions did not deserve respect, David honored Saul as his king and refused to kill him. David said, “The LORD forbid that I should lay a hand on the LORD’s anointed.” (1 Samuel 26:11)

How does this example relate to us? We believe that God wants us to respect others because of their positions. (See Romans 13:1-7.) Furthermore, we know that everyone is imperfect, ourselves included. We need to be careful not to let the weaknesses of others erode our respect for their good qualities. We need to look hard for good qualities in each individual. By so doing we will usually find some quality that we can truly respect in that person.

Even though your boss may seem to be “dishonest and lazy,” he really may want to be a good person and do the right thing but is unaware that his behavior has had such a negative effect on his employees. It may be helpful to bring your concerns to your boss. This approach would best be done in a manner that expressed respect for him and his company. Such a strategy increases the likelihood of a listening ear because you would NOT be making yourself the priority. Instead, the focus would be on your boss and the company he has striven to build.

What does the Bible say regarding respecting others who have not earned that respect? It says that we are always to show proper respect to everyone (1 Peter 2:17) regardless of whether it is earned or not.

To learn more about how to love those who are challenging listen to, “Condemned to Death, How Did Jesus Love His Enemies?”

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Ep.: Should Christians be lending money for profit?

God gave Moses specific rules that the Jewish nation was to follow regarding the practice of lending. God said, “If you lend money to one of my people among you who is needy, do not be like a moneylender; charge him no interest.” (Exodus 22:25) However, God did allow the Israelites to charge foreigners interest. (See Deuteronomy 23:20.)

Subsequently, at the end of seven years, debts of fellow Israelites were automatically canceled while debts of foreigners were not. (See Deuteronomy 15:1-3.) We must assume that since God instigated the Law, it was fair and equitable for the foreigner as well as for the Jew. Even though debts of foreigners were not canceled, there is no indication whatsoever that God wanted the Jews to take advantage of their situation.

Many years later when Jesus appeared on the scene, he took the Law of Moses to a much higher level. Regarding lending he said, “Give to the one who asks you, and do not turn away from the one who wants to borrow from you.” (Matthew 5:42)

“Give to everyone who asks you, and do not demand it back. Do to others as you would have them do to you. . . . But love your enemies, do good to them, and lend to them without expecting anything back. Then your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High, because he is kind to the ungrateful and wicked. Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful.” (Luke 6:30, 35-36)

It is obvious from the above scriptures that God would not approve of a Christian running a loan shark operation due to the predatory nature of the practice. Because a loan shark lends money for personal gain at excessively high and possibly illegal rates of interest, he takes advantage of a borrower’s desperation or inability to borrow money through more legitimate channels such as banks or mortgage and finance companies.

Taking advantage of another’s misfortune is contrary to the principles of Christianity set forth by Jesus. However, it is important not to confuse a loan officer or a financial representative of a legitimate mortgage or car company with a loan shark. There is a big difference between being in the personal business of lending money to individuals for profit and being an employee of a legitimate money lending institution.

We believe it would be unconscionable for anyone professing Christianity to be in the business of lending money for personal profit. Conversely, we see no problem with a person working for an institution, such as a bank, where money is lent. Regarding personal affairs, the Christian’s focus should always be on following the example that Jesus set forth, that is, giving from the heart and expecting nothing back in return.

Tags: debt, Jesus and money, money, money lending

Ep.: Should women work outside the home?

Whether a wife should work outside the home is a controversial question for many Christians today. In Titus 2:4-5 the Apostle Paul tells older women to “train the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands so that no one will malign the word of God.”

These scriptures aptly describe the role God wants a woman to assume as a wife to her husband and as a mother to her children. Although the world we live in is vastly different that of ancient times, the principles stated in the above verses are still applicable today. The Apostle is clear that a wife’s first responsibility is to her husband and children.

However, neither the above scriptures nor any others found in the Bible forbid a woman from working outside the home. They only describe what her priorities should be. If working outside the home causes a woman to neglect her children and husband, then it is wrong for that woman to work. If she is able to maintain outside employment and still provide a loving, caring environment within the home, then it is acceptable for her to work.

We realize that it is not an easy task to be a loving and caring wife and mother when one is working an eight-hour shift. Therefore, each woman must determine how much outside work she can handle without exhausting herself and neglecting her primary role as wife and mother. If a woman can juggle a job and not neglect her domestic duties, then it is perfectly acceptable for her to work outside the home. There is freedom in Christ.

Proverbs 31:10-31 provides us with an example of “a wife of noble character.” Starting at verse 11, the writer praises this woman as one who does everything in her power to care for her family. She works hard to keep her house and her family in order. In verse 16 we learn that she is able to purchase a field and from her earnings she plants a vineyard on it. Verse 18 tells us that she also is a trader of goods in the marketplace and, in verse 24, she is so industrious that she even makes linen garments and sells them in order to provide additional income for her family.

This woman’s motivation is important in that her business activities were the means to an end, not an end in themselves. She was providing for her family, not furthering her career, or working to keep up with the neighbors. Her employment was secondary to her true calling—the stewardship of her husband, children, and home.

What does the Bible say about women working outside the home? The Bible nowhere forbids a woman from working outside the home. It only instructs the Christian woman on the earthly domestic role she is to fulfill in God’s plan.

Tags: Christian liberty, christian woman, women

Ep.: Should Christians work in occupations where carrying a gun is a requirement?

The question of whether or not Christians should be involved in the military or the police force where they are required to carry weapons is one that has been debated for many years by sincere Christians.

When our Lord Jesus walked the earth, he taught us by example and through the establishment of a commandment “to love the Lord thy God with all thy heart,” and to “love thy neighbor as thyself.” (Matthew 22:37-39) This new attitude toward even our enemies rejects the use of force and killing. “Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you.” (Luke 6:27-28)

As Christians we have our citizenship in heaven and are aliens or foreigners to any earthly government since we have already given our allegiance to the higher power—the Heavenly Lord. Although we are obedient to the laws of the land in which we live, we are not compelled to fight against our King.

We are told, “submit yourselves to every ordinance” (1 Peter 2:13), except when our conscience, and God’s laws, would be violated. Our Heavenly Father is looking at how we are living up to the teachings that were revealed to us by his dear Son. “We are therefore Christ’s ambassadors, as though God were making his appeal through us. We implore you on Christ’s behalf: Be reconciled to God.” (2 Corinthians 5:20) Let us then,

“Follow peace with all men, and holiness, without which no man shall see the Lord.” (Hebrews 12:14)

Although we definitely believe that as Christians we should be conscientious objectors abstaining from military combat, whether we should choose an occupation such as a police officer is a little bit more nebulous. Police officers defend the populace from criminals and are most certainly needed to maintain order in our present society where Satan is prince.

However, we must ask if it is wise for a true Christian to knowingly choose such a profession where he may one day be confronted with a situation where he will have to use his weapon and perhaps injure or kill a person, even an innocent person, in the line of duty. We would suggest if law enforcement appeals to you, that you choose an area within the profession where you do not have to use a weapon, such as an advisor, consultant or work in the many forensic fields available today. You will have the satisfaction of doing something positive for society without running the risk of violating Jesus’ commandment.

Tags: guns, military, police

Ep.: Why do people cheat on their spouses?

The usual reasons for committing fornication stem from selfish desires. Married couples may get bored with their spouses, fall out of love, etc. and seek change or excitement outside of marriage. Singles, on the other hand, would rather “test the waters” or “play the field” before taking the plunge into marriage. Both groups violate God’s righteous laws that forbid sexual relations outside of marriage.

Why do some individuals not practice fornication, whether married or single? We believe that they put God’s word first in their lives, not their own personal desires or perceived needs. They value God’s institution of marriage as sacred. The vows to love, cherish and be faithful for better or worse, in sickness and health unto death are serious promises to Christians who choose to live in accordance with God’s will.

In the sight of God the marriage covenant requires wholehearted commitment, exclusivity, and unswerving loyalty to one’s partner. Jesus adds,

“So that they are no more two, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.” Matthew 19:6

Since the Christian marriage is also an earthly picture that symbolizes the heavenly union of Christ and his bride, when marital problems arise it is the obligation of both parties to prayerfully ask the Lord for guidance to find a way to set matters right. When a person strays and engages in fornication outside the marriage covenant, he or she is not respecting God’s sacred laws and is looking for a means of escape.

A marriage must be nurtured and requires time and work. Married couples that honor God’s word are willing to take the time and do the work. The Apostle Paul gives much good advice to husbands and wives in Ephesians 5:22-33. He ends by saying, “Each of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.” (Ephesians 5:33)

Anyone who honors God’s laws and is willing to sacrifice his or her own desires to do God’s will, will not engage in fornication, whether married or single.

For more on adultery listen to, “Is Adultery Really That Wrong?”

Tags: adultery, cheating, fornication, marriage, marriage vow

Ep.: How should we deal with someone who has hurt our feelings?

We are to deal with such a person with patience and kindness. We do not know the person’s mental state or what trials he or she may be going through at the time. Rather than dwelling on our own hurt feelings, we, as Christians, are to let go of negative feelings and move forward in peace and forgiveness. Sometimes events that at first seem devastating actually are allowed by God to develop our characters and increase our faith.

Romans 12:10-21 gives us good advice on the love Christians should have for each other as well as for those of a worldly disposition.

“Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves. . . . Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse. Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn. Live in harmony with one another. . . . Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everybody. If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live in peace with everyone. . . Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.” Romans 12:10-21

To learn more about forgiveness listen to, “Is Forgiveness Really Necessary?”

Tags: forgiveness, hurt feelings, hurt us

Ep.: Is it ok to live together before getting married?

Even if you planned to avoid having sex before marriage, would living together violate the scriptures that tells us to avoid the appearance of sin?

Although there are no scriptural references that specifically forbid unmarried couples from living in the same abode, it certainly makes good moral sense to live apart. Here’s why. In speaking to unmarried widows, the Apostle Paul in 1 Corinthians 7:9 says, “For if they are not practicing self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to be aflame with passion.” In this passage the Apostle places “practicing self-control opposite being “aflame with passion.”

Paul is clearly saying that it is better to marry than to be tempted by passion, which goes against self control. When a couple is living in the same house, even though they are not sexually intimate, they are playing with fire. Jesus tells us to pray that we be delivered from temptation (Matthew 6:13). This is pretty hard to do when you are living with temptation. Considering how often sexual sin is condemned throughout the entire Bible, thinking that you would be strong enough to live together without sin ignores the obvious pull of sexual temptation.

But even if you are both strong enough to still live together and not be sexually intimate, your example sends a message to others who are not as strong as you that it is acceptable to live together. Paul is clear in his argument about eating idol-meat (1 Corinthians 10:31-33; 11:1) that if you do something which you do not consider sin, but in so doing you cause other Christians to follow, and they do sin, then you will have to answer to that. In arguing that you can live together and not sin, you ignore how hard it is for people, especially in our culture, to live sexually pure lives, even when married.

If you, as a Christian, argue that it is permissible to live with your fiancée outside of the marriage bond because you are strong enough not to sin, and some other Christian is led astray by your actions, you will be called into accountability. Paul teaches throughout his writings that we are not our own—we no longer have our own “rights” but we are tied to Christ. All our actions should be measured by the glory they bring to God.

You must ask yourself,

“Are my actions glorifying God’s laws? Am I a good Christian example to others of one following in our Lord Jesus’ footsteps?”

If the answer to either of these questions is negative, then we would advise you to live separately.

Tags: dating, marriage, sin

Ep.: Is name calling ever appropriate?

Even when you feel convicted that what the other person is doing is very wrong, no, we do not feel as Christians that name-calling is appropriate behavior. Even when Jesus harshly rebuked the Pharisees, calling them hypocrites (see Matthew 23:13-36), he never rebuked them individually, but as a class of people. Just because we are against abortion, we do not have the right to insult individuals who disagree with our position. Instead, our focus should be on education. As the holy spirit of God enlightens us, we have a responsibility to let our light shine forth onto others. Insulting them defeats that purpose.

The scriptures tell us that we are walking epistles and are judged by our actions and our words. The Apostle Paul writes, “You yourselves are our letter, written on our hearts, known and read by everybody.” (2 Corinthians 3:2) By demeaning ourselves through name calling, we lower the high Christian standard that our Lord Jesus set for us. As Christians we desire to walk in our Master’s path. We try to emulate His example as we go forth into the world, bearing witness to the truth, by our words and our lives.

Furthermore, we are incapable of judging others. We do not know their hearts or what is motivating them to act as they do. Only God is able to look at the heart of an individual. Jesus told the Pharisees, “You judge by human standards; I pass judgment on no one. But if I do judge, my decisions are right, because I am not alone. I stand with the Father, who sent me.” (John 8:15-16) When speaking on the Mount Jesus said, “Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.” (Matthew 7:1-2)

We look forward to the day when all the wrongs of this world will be righted. It will be a thousand- year judgment day in which all who have ever lived will come back from their graves and have an opportunity to learn what true righteousness really is so that they may enjoy everlasting life on earth.

“For then will I turn to the people a pure language, that they may call upon the name of the LORD, to serve him with one consent.” Zephaniah 3:9

The best efforts of humankind cannot make a dent in the degradation of fallen man, but our faith sustains us because we know that one day God will right all the wrongs. We cannot even imagine how wonderful his kingdom will be!

To learn more about what the Bible says about judging others listen to, “Is It Ever Right to Judge Your Brother?”

Ep.: How do we set rules and boundaries for our children without closing the door to communication with them if they break those rules?

A parent’s job has never been an easy one and the times in which we live exacerbate an already difficult task. But, daunting as it may be, we are responsible for all aspects of our children’s training and welfare. The Bible gives us some good advice. “Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.” (Proverbs 22:6)

“Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor your father and mother— which is the first commandment with a promise—that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy a long life on the earth. Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.” (Ephesians 6:1-4)

In these scriptures God is admonishing us as parents to set rules for our children that are reasonable and moral. A parent should explain the reason that the rules are important for the child’s well being. A child needs to feel that the parent cares enough to supervise his comings and goings. To prepare her for that time, you need to talk with her about what she can and cannot do and why. Once you have done this, you need to have consequences for violation of your rules. Even though she may complain, she will respect you. At her young age, you are responsible for your daughter’s actions, not her.

Although disciplining a child is hard on both the parent and the child, it is necessary and worthwhile.Your child will thank you later. As the Apostle Paul says in Hebrews 12:7-9 and 11,

“Endure hardship as discipline; God is treating you as sons. For what son is not disciplined by his father? If you are not disciplined (and everyone undergoes discipline), then you are illegitimate children and not true sons. No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.” Hebrews 12:7-9,11

Tags: boundaries, discipline, parenting, parenting advice, rules

Ep.: Should a Christian be obedient to tithing?

First we want to examine tithing from the Old Testament and why some Christian denominations practice tithing today.

When God gave the Law to the Israelites he told Moses’ brother Aaron that the tribe of Levi (the Levites) were to be the priests and have charge over spiritual matters. They were to have no share in the land because God was their possession. Therefore they were allowed one tenth of everything from all the other Israelites. (See Leviticus 27:30-34 and Numbers 18:20- 24.) They were not only to use this tenth for their own personal living, but they were also to use one tenth of their tenth to do sacrificing to God (Numbers 18:25-30). And that tenth had to be the very best part that they received from the rest of Israel. Tithes were always animals or crops, etc. because God was not interested in money. (See Deuteronomy 12:17 and 2 Chronicles 31:5-6.)

Christian churches that support tithing today use the Malachi 3:8-9 scripture that says, “Will a man rob God? Yet you rob me. But you ask, ‘How do we rob you?’ In tithes and offerings. You are under a curse-the whole nation of you-because you are robbing me.” These churches say that this scripture gives biblical credence to the tithing concept and quote it saying that if members do not tithe, they will be cursed.

It is our belief that the above scripture has no bearing on Christians at all, nor does it focus on Israel at large, but focuses specifically on the Levites and particularly on the priesthood. We know this to be true because the Book of Malachi is a conversation between God and the Levites. The Levites were the ones offering lame and sick animals for sacrifice to God when they were supposed to offer the very best. Therefore, God said that He would curse them and, because of them, the people would also be cursed. Christian ministers who profess tithing see themselves as a picture of the priesthood and, thereby, recipients of tithes. They see their congregations as a picture of Israel, and, thus, the givers of the tithes. If these ministers use the Malachi text as proof for tithing, then they must also accept God’s admonition and assume responsibility, if unfaithful, for dragging their congregations down with them.

Should Christians actually be using Malachi 3:8-9 to support tithing? The New Testament gives us the answer. In 1 Timothy 5:17-18 and in 1 Corinthians 9:7-14, the Apostle Paul says that it is acceptable to monetarily support those who preach and teach the gospel. In both instances he quotes the Law of Moses, “You shall not muzzle the ox while he is threshing” (Deuteronomy 25:4).

We notice that Paul does not mention anything about tithing. If tithing were a New Testament concept, he surely would have quoted that part of the Law in these contexts, rather than quote about not muzzling an ox. Instead, Paul makes the point that when the ox is treading out the grain, it feeds when it is hungry. It does not eat to get fat. If the ox is working, it needs to be supported. Likewise, members of the congregation are free to give to those who preach and teach when there is a need.

However, Jesus did talk about tithing. In Luke 18:10-14, he speaks about the Pharisee who paid his tithes but was not justified because he lacked humility. In Matthew 5:20 Jesus says that unless your righteousness surpasses the scribes and Pharisees you will not enter the kingdom of heaven. Here, and in other illustrations, Jesus exposed the hypocrisy of the Pharisees. Yes, they were paying their tithes, but they were omitting the weightier matters of the Law. They were doing only the mechanical part and not the heart part. Both Jesus and Apostle Paul tell us to give from the heart, not from compulsion. (See Mark 7:8-13; 2 Corinthians 9:7; Colossians 3:16-17; Galatians 6:2; Mark 12:41-44; Philippians 4:15-20).

In 1 Corinthians 16:1-2 the Apostle Paul directed the churches of Galatia to set aside a sum of money on the first day of the week so that when he returned no collections would have to be made. Paul was concerned about those Christians in Jerusalem who were destitute. In order to properly support them, it was suggested that the churches set aside money on a regular basis. Paul did not tell the churches to tithe, but he did tell them to give from their hearts. Although the idea of tithing is scriptural, it belongs in the context of the Old Testament Law. Neither the words of Jesus nor of the Apostle bring us under the boundaries of tithing. But they do tell us that giving comes from the heart and supporting one another is the glory of the gospel of Christ.

Although we do not see any New Testament scriptural basis for tithing, in principle we commend your desire to regularly support your congregation. However, you are, first and foremost, obligated to pay your medical bills and all other financial obligations before you can make contributions to your church. (See Romans 13:1, 5-7.)

To learn more about tithing listen to, “Do Tithes and Offerings Belong in Christianity?”

Tags: offerings, tithing

Ep.: Is it okay to use a Wiccan ritual to bless a house?

Wicca is a Pagan religion. Pagan religions worship or hold sacred the created, such as nature, the universe, and the elements, etc., rather than the Creator. While Pagans are considered polytheistic, believing in multiple gods and goddesses taken from various cultures and time periods, Wiccans are generally “ditheistic”- meaning the worship of two deities – a god and a goddess. Wicca reveres the god and the goddess as the principle sacred powers.

These two beliefs alone violate the first two of God’s commandments, which state, “You shall have no other gods before me. You shall not make for yourself an idol in the form of anything in heaven above or on earth beneath or in the waters below. You shall not bow down to them or worship them; for I, the LORD your God, am a jealous God.” (Exodus 20:3- 4)

The LORD God, although loving, forgiving and merciful, is a jealous God. He requires us to worship him and none other. As a Christian, we cannot pray to God or Jesus while knowingly participating in a ceremony that places nature above God.

When we deviate from God’s word and start down the path of our own human explanations and reasoning, we tread on dangerous ground. God warns us that a double-minded man is unstable in all he does (James 1:8). Our relationship with God is hindered and, if we persist on this course, it is ultimately broken.

“There is a way that seems right to a man, but its end is the way of death.” (Proverbs 16:25)

Based on the above scriptural reasoning, we it it not appropriate buy items from aWiccan store in order to participate in this ritualistic house “blessing.” God requires no such “blessing” ritual. However, we see no problem getting together as a group of fellow Christians and asking God to bless the house and its inhabitants. Perhaps some Psalms, hymns and prayers could be offered, recited or sung at the time.

For more on why witchcraft is not godly listen to, “Should We Be Worried About Witchcraft?”

Tags: pagan ritual, Wicca, wiccan, witchcraft

Ep.: Should I swear to tell the truth?

In Matthew 5:33-37. “Again, you have heard that it was said to the people long ago, ‘Do not break your oath, but keep the oaths you have made to the Lord.’ But I tell you, do not swear at all: either by heaven, for it is God’s throne; or by the earth, for it is his footstool; or by Jerusalem, for it is the city of the Great King. And do not swear by your head, for you cannot make even one hair white or black. Simply let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No’ ‘No’; anything beyond this comes from the evil one.”

We believe that these scriptures refer to the ordinary conversations an individual has in his personal life. The act of commonly swearing on the Lord’s name or on the Bible has the tendency to make a person less reverent to the Lord and more likely to break his oaths. These scriptures tell us that where the word is held sacred the avenues of possible sin, error and falsehood are measurably stopped.

However, we believe that nothing in the above scriptures can properly be understood to apply to the taking of an oath in a court of law or signing documents for the government swearing that you are telling the truth. The fact that one swears what he says is true implies that he does not expect his hearer to believe his simple word, and this, in turn, presupposes that his word is not ordinarily worthy of belief. Such “swearings” are, therefore, necessary because not everyone in the world has the high standard of truth that we Christians have and is desired by God.

Tags: oath, swear, swearing

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